At times, it is strangely sedative to know the extent of your own powerlessness.

~ Erica Jong

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THE ROSE & THORN WEEKLY NEWZ

Sunday, November 4^th 2001

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FEATURED ARTICLES IN THIS STEAMING ISSUE:

Are We Serving Your Needs? - A Survey From Rose & Thorn

BDSM Website of the Week- Recommended By Our Readers

Sadie Comes Out As A Bawdy Girl And So Much More Part 2 of 2- By Submissive Sadie

Rashoman Meets BDSM - Doug & Sscot's letters to the editor Part 3 of 3

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NEWSLETTER

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COMMUNITY

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY To our Rose & Thorn Member Liaison Michael! E-mail him at fletch1107@adelphia.net to send your good wishes. Michael has been with R&T for1.5 years now and does fetish and portrait photography.

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SADIE COMES OUT AS A BAWDY GIRL AND SO MUCH MORE Part 2 of 2

Copies of part 1 are available upon request

By Submissive Sadie

Burlvtsub@aol.com

JOINING A COMMUNITY

The next step for many people is to join a D/s community like ours - and of course since I didn't have one to join, I started one. Of all the things I have done in my life, creating Rose & Thorn has been one of the most fulfilling. It has given people a safe place to explore their sexual selves. At the beginning I had some fears about meeting people I knew, and that did in fact happen. At our second event someone from my church joined the group. After the initial awkwardness we both realized that we had an equal need for privacy and so I discovered that my fears were unfounded. I have seen this same scenario play out with others who have encountered people they know with no ill effects to either party.

WHERE TO NEXT?

If I were to take the next step in my own "coming out," it would be to become an activist in the national BDSM community. For role models I have Mistress Ren of CUFSmaine and and Laura Goodwin of United Leatherfolk of Connecticut as well as the other leaders who make up the BDSM Group Leaders association I belong to. They are an active force in educating the community at large, and we are all indebted to them and the other leading authors and activists who have given us legal support, safety in numbers, and information that was not easily available even ten short years ago.

If you are considering sharing your "secret life" with someone I encourage you to do it. It is enormously freeing to break the silence. Be careful who you tell, and think carefully about how you tell them. It helps to have some books on hand, such as The Loving Dominant or Screw the Roses, Send Me The Thorns which provide a great deal of credibility. I also keep copies of the BDSM FAQ which I got off of alt.bondage.personals years ago (and can provide it for anyone who wants a copy).

PITFALLS AND PRATFALLS

For many people who have been raised under the conventional sexual mores of American culture, discovering their D/s orientation can let loose a torrent of needs. Having repressed their sexual desires for years, there is an urge to go wild and sleep and/or play with everyone who says yes. Although on the surface it can seem a great way to get experience fast, it is quite often the road to a broken heart, not to mention the risks of sexually transmitted diseases and inexperienced Doms. D/s is powerful stuff, and if you are new to the heady feeling of the power exchange, it can easily be mixed up with different powerful emotions like love, relationship, and commitment. If you decide to play actively, be aware that many of the new feelings you experience will not fit into your old frame of reference about relationships. For example many people talk about very intimate details of their sex lives on a first date; intercourse is no longer an assumption of having a relationship with someone; and it is common for people to enter a sexual relationship barely knowing each other.

On the other hand I know several novices who read so much and for so long that they never actually experience anything. The thing is, you can read a hundred books and cruise a thousand websites and chatrooms, but it will not equal one hour of real experience. Education is very, very important, but is only as experiential as "describing" an orange. The live dynamic of interacting with someone is biting into that orange and feeling the juices run down your chin.

The worst pitfall of all is not to come out. Every week someone writes me who wants to attend Rose & Thorn events, but who is cheating on their partner/spouse. Of course we don't allow them to attend because we believe in the "Consensual" of Safe, Sane and Consensual - and cheating on someone is clearly not consensual for the person being cheated on. Also, there is a very real risk of the hurt party discovering their partner's involvement in our group and either crashing an event or violating the confidentiality of member's e-mail addresses. (nothing like a scorned lover!) We want guests to feel safe that everyone in our group is open and honest.

It is quite often these same people who have not yet come out to anyone. They live in ongoing fear of being exposed as well as the pressure of never being able to express their sexual orientation. Although it is undeniably scary to come out to a longtime partner, the alternative is so much worse. There are very serious risks to consider, especially if there are children involved and those have to be weighed carefully. Still, I believe that to repress a primal force as powerful as one's sexuality can only, in the long run, hurt everyone.

So yes, I believe that exploring that force is central to fulfillment in this life. You can chalk it up to my being a bawdy girl if you want, but if there is one thing that I have heard over and over, it is that the gift of community provides safe passage for all of us.

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Submissive Sadie is the founder and leader of Rose & Thorn, Vermont's BDSM social group. Comments, compliments and complaints, as well as requests for reprinting can be addressed to her at BurlVTSub@aol.com. Sadie believes that the universe is abundant, and that sharing information freely is part of this abundance, so she allows reprints of her writing in most venues.

Copyright August, 2001.

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LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

This is the THIRD in a three part letter series from my friend Doug and his partner Sscot who live out in California.

Rashoman Meets BDSM

This third part by Sscot

flaming_sol@hotmail.com

LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

This is the THIRD in a three part letter series from my friend Doug and his partner Sscot who live out in California.

Rashoman Meets BDSM

This third part by Sscot

flaming_sol@hotmail.com

Hello my name is Sscot. I am an extremely feminine woman who loves the balance of having a "man's" name. I have lived by this name for eight years and don't anticipate changing anytime soon. I am on a journey of constant discovery....I want to get messy in life thus, I decided to try putting in an ad in the local romance section. I am extremely practical & don't want to waste my time doing all the things one is supposed to do to meet an intimate partner. My first ad was last year and read: Vibrant, enthusiastic, optimistic, passionate rubenesque red head bisexual woman looking for good friends, lovers, & playmates for enjoying the beach, exercising, gardening, talking over tea/coffee, & fabulously consensual pleasures. open to couples & individuals.

That ad brought a lot of responses but only two that really grabbed my attention. One of them has become a very good friend and occasional lover. I call him my secondary relationship...we spend time together when we can & we are both very busy in our other relationships & general life. Recently I decided I wanted more. We talked and he has been very active in my process. It has been wonderful to have a lover & friend who can truly support my quests.

As a result of one of our conversations, I became very clear what I wanted. Thus, this years ad. Rubenesque redhead- vibrant, enthusiastic, optimistic and passionately bisexual sub/switch woman looking for ltr lover/ playmate/goodfriend To enjoy good company @ the beach, talking over tea/coffee/plum wine & fabulously consensual pleasures. Similar yet more to the point. During this process, I returned a call to Doug. We talked for a long while and then began emailing. Several phone calls & emails later(SEVERAL) I decided I wanted to meet him. The distance was intimidating to me, yet I was enjoying what had developed into sparring/teasing by email. He had sent me one particular story that made my Dom come leaping out...I wanted at him....bad. In this story he sent me he was Dominating very hard...that just made me want to turn the tables on him and see him on the receiving end.

We agreed to meet...I am a bit like a black widow in that I always like to meet in my domain. I wasn't sure what to wear...I finally decided on a form fitted, long black dress with spaghetti straps and a pull over RED sweater. Conservative....sort of. :) Just my style!

I tried not to think about him driving over to meet me...I resorted to reading about Klimt & looking at pictures of his art work. I knew that most likely I wanted to see how he played. Of course there was always the chance that we wouldn't hit it off...but I could only wait to see. When he arrived, showed him into the house and made him choose his tea & mug...always interesting to watch that process. :) We sat down on the couch to chat. After awhile I made more tea and showed him my artwork and house, explaining as we went the possibilities I saw in it all. I decided to show him my favorite aquarium, which just happens to be at the foot of my bed. I observed him for a few minutes before testing him further. I pulled out some of my favorite books...Bondage. Transformations of Gwen. and Lust & Romance (black & white photos of people having sex). We discussed personal favorites and not so favorites. We moved back into the living room. He was describing some of the things he had seen & reached over to touch my breast in demonstration of were needles had been in his story. I was feeling quite playful...my dress was riding higher up my legs by the minute and I did nothing to correct this. Finally, I told him I wanted to play with his nipples. As he unbuttoned his shirt I straddled him...knowing full well the likely response. I began testing his nipples...most people I know can not tolerate the intensity I enjoy around nipple torture, so I watched carefully to see where his limits would be. He had a much higher limit than I expected...I began to grin- an evil mischievous grin that I get when I Dom. I was enjoying myself immensely

I was enjoying myself immensely. I enjoyed watching his face soften and tighten as I pinched, twisted, licked and pulled his nipples. Having spent most of my sexual life with only women, I very much enjoyed that he has ample nipples...so much the easier to bite. :) I could have played like this for hours more, but he had started running his hands up my thighs. His sounds of pleasure making me want to feel his hands all over my body...I could feel my hips rubbing back and forth against him. He slid his hands under my sweater and I had to grin...he didn't know I had a full dress on under my sweater. I volunteered to take off my sweater, he responded by asking about the dress. So off it went. Now I was starting to feel myself switching gears...here I was sitting on his lap in only a g string...and he had been starting to work my nipples. My head rolled back and I began to feel myself drifting further and further into that luxurious space of submissiveness. He was pinching and licking my nipples...the sound of his tongue reaching out to my nipple made me gush. As he worked them harder and more intently I had to give in...I let go off his nipples, just resting my hands on his chest. I could feel my hair reaching down and tickling my back as my head and body rolled with the pleasurable feelings. I could feel my skin starting to shiver. At some point I realized I could hardly keep my balance...I leaned on him for support to catch my breath. I could feel myself letting go...I gathered up my courage and said "you can do anything you want to me". Simple, but not. He laughed...I think more at my lack of balance than what I had just said, and suggested I lay down. Where? How? I was no longer able to think, but Doug was very willing to direct me. He helped me roll over and get comfortable. I felt his hand running over my ass.

His hands were warm, soft and firm in their movements. I so enjoyed feeling him running his hands over my ass, then just as I was getting comfortable with this gentleness, there came a smack. Not hard just confident, but I jumped. His spanks came very steady and well spaced out at first and as I stopped jumping they became faster and less spaced out. My ass was warming up nicely. I remember thinking at one point...I like this man's style...and then another smack and I stopped thinking. He held my hips so I was jammed between his body and his arm. It felt so lovely to be unable to move very far from his smacks...I wanted his attentions and yet I was also feeling the need to resist. A stubborn side of my submission was peeking out. I tried to move my arms without much success. Partly because they were jelly and partly because my bracelet had become caught on the couch. After a minute or so of trying unsuccessfully to move, I gave up but began to laugh at my predicament. Here I was trying to test him, and not only was I Jell-O like, I was caught and held captive by my bracelet and his arm & body. I couldn't have asked for more.

We laughed for a moment and then moved on. I felt his lips gently kissing my hot ass. The contrast was delicious. The dry hot tingly skin and his slick, cool gentle touch. I wanted him inside of me. I wanted to feel his hand in my cunt. I wanted to feel my hair stand up on my neck from the exquisite torture of his hand fucking me. I began lifting my ass up to meet his hand as he ran his hand gently over and around. He started teasing me.. running his hand lower, then up again. Then over my underwear covered labia. I could hardly contain myself. Finally he slipped a finger or two under my g string and began rubbing gently up and down my wet eager clit and labia. I could sense him watching my response as he moved and explored... I felt him slide in to the outer edge of my cunt. I think he removed my g string but I can hardly remember. I was so hot and eager I did whatever it took to have his hand between my legs. I felt him enter me.. the sudden flash of ecstasy as I felt him moving in then out, along the edge and then diving in with more and more.... I was in heaven. I was being fucked in my favorite way and I'd already had my nipples tortured and my ass spanked. I could feel my excitement rising rapidly as he pushed harder and deeper into me. Then suddenly I was really warm & wet, as well as slightly confused. What had just happened...I couldn't think clearly so I gave in to his caresses.

We slowed down and took a break to gather our bearings. I could feel my hunger returning. I instructed him to stand in front of me while I stripped him of his clothing. I had him grasp his hands behind his back. I ran my hands over his body as I inspected my new slave. He did as he was told and waited patiently yet nervously while I finished my inspection. I rubbed my hair over his chest and gently touched his cock. I heard him intake sharply.

I grasped his cock in my hand firmly to focus his attention. I enjoyed the feeling of this toy in my hand...rubbing, squeezing, scratching the shaft and gently but firmly flicking the opening with my tongue. I slid down to a comfortable position and played in ernest with his cock. Pinching the skin, rubbing it like dough in the kitchen between my hands. Flicking my tongue and sliding my finger nail firmly across the top and opening of his cock. I deliberately pressed harder at the center and watched his face as he sucked in a breath. He forgot to hold his hands and they came out to his side. I watched as he realized and corrected his error. I was pleased. This was exactly where I wanted him. He wanted to do what I asked of him yet he was challenged by his bodily responses. I praised him and instructed him to move to the floor. I wanted to see him as vulnerable as I had felt only a short while previous. He kneeled against the couch and lay his head on the couch with his arms laid out on the cushions. I watched him quietly for a few minutes.

Then having firmly instructed him to STAY, I quickly left the room for gloves and lube. I snapped the glove sharply as I put it on. letting the sound carry to him. I walked over to him and began rubbing his ass. I started to softly spank him. I didn't know his tolerances and knew that starting to softly would only further incite him. As I gained confidence in his comfort I built up to stronger and more rapid strokes. Having never played with him I kept it light. I moved towards his cock and felt him tense. I moved back up to his round ass. He was wiggling and squirming. I rubbed my hand gently over his ass, cooing and kissing him. I leaned over and let the lube slide down the crack in his ass. I rubbed up and around the edge of his ass. Gradually pressing further into his ass. He sighed and raised his ass...I drove my finger into his ass. Gently rotating around inside his ass. Pushing in further, then pulling out to add another finger. He began to say "burn" at the same time as spreading his ass further apart with his hands. Not trusting his ability to say stop, I gently removed my fingers and rubbed his back. I kissed his back and reassured him how good he had done. I trailed my hair over his back and rested my head on his back, listening to his breathing as he cooled down. We checked in and took another breath. As he came back, I gently asked him would he like to fuck me. He nodded yes and we gently rested for a few minutes.

Soon he was back. He instructed me down on my knees, licking and sucking his cock. He grasped my hair and pulled my head back and forwards, treating me like the whore I wanted to be. Soon he was fucking me hard and insistently. At on point I gagged- he immediately backed off and stroked my hair and face while I caught my breath. When he felt I was ready, he grasped my head between his hands and slowly slid his cock into and out of my mouth. I don't remember how we ended up on my bed, but he had me crouched on my hands and knees at the edge of the bed. I was giddy with anticipation...I love being fucked doggy style! I felt myself melt as he grabbed my hips and forcefully pulled them back to him. I felt him using his cock to tease my click....AHHHHH! I wanted him to fuck me! And them he did.

He dove into my cunt and then held while I reeled in intense ecstasy. Then he began fucking me...we fucked for a while, alternating between his fucking me and telling me to rub his cock. While he was fucking me, my cat jumped up on the bed( as she insists on doing during sex) and began conversing with me. We laughed for a few minutes and then resumed our heavy fucking. I was enjoying our exchange. At some point he rubbed his cock against my ass, and receiving no protests, he took his cock, wet from my cunt and slowly pushed into my asshole. I felt the rippling sensations as he slid deeper and deeper. My arms collapsed under me and I was laying face down with my ass in the air and full of his warm, wet cock. "This is heaven " I said. Not even realizing I had said it out loud. I felt him getting more and more excited as my own excitement built up. I began fucking back and soon I could hear him getting close to coming. At that moment all I wanted was to hear him come.

I squeezed my ass against him as I fucked as hard as I could. The sound of our skin hitting resounded through the room and then... I heard him come. A roaring, gasping sound so easily identifiable. I wanted nothing more. I had been fully used and had just as fully taken. I was relaxed and content. He went into the other room to wash and I luxuriated on the bed. Running my hand over my thighs, hips, stomach, belly and up to my neck. He returned with a cloth and offered it to me. The cold felt good. We sat on the bed just being for awhile, occasionally talking and then just watching each other. I thought about offering for him to spend the night and felt comfortable so I offered. He declined but reassured me he would have been pleased to, but was unprepared. I understood and gradually we moved towards clothing and closing. I walked him to the door and listened to be sure his car started before I locked the door. We had enjoyed each other's company thoroughly...who knows where it will go from there....it was certainly well worth the screening and talking we had done up to that point. I envisioned him driving safely home in a bubble of white light as I stumbled into bed with my faithful snuggling cat and drifted off into blissful sleep.

**If you liked this story - do write Sscot and tell her!

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REGIONAL VT & NEW ENGLAND BDSM EVENT & ANNOUNCEMENT LIST

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ROSE & THORN BDSM SOCIAL EVENTS

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For more info contact me: BurlVTSub@aol.com

UPCOMING DATES (Usually the third Saturday of the month):

Saturday November 17^th Thanksgiving Party (Essex Junction) Drew will be leading a discussion group on safety during the first meeting with a possible BDSM partner.

Saturday December 15^th Holiday party & BDSM Gift Swap (Richmond). This is a RED themed party - please wear a red accountrement.

Saturday January 19^th New Year's Party (Burlington) - This is a PURPLE themed party - please wear a purple accountrement.

Saturday February 16^th Dinner OUT at a restaurant. Please wear evening dress - nothing too wild please!

Saturday March 16^th St. Patrick's Day Party - This is a GREEN themed party - please wear a green accountrement.

Saturday April 20^th

Saturday May 18^th

Saturday June 15^th - THIRD anniversary party!

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GENERAL BDSM ANNOUNCEMENTS

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BDSM RECIPES & POEMS WANTED!

sa_kinah@hotmail.com

sa`kinah of ALU in Maine is in the process of developing a BDSM recipe book for people in the lifestyle. She welcomes recipes and poems from Dom/mes, Subs, Switches and everyone in between! Please send your materials to her directly. (I'd also love to run your poetry in this newsletter if you want to copy me on the poetry - thanks!)

For more information on Alternative Lifestyles United (ALU) contact:

http://alur.xohost.com

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FETISH PHOTOGRAPHY NOW AVAILABLE FROM OUR VERY OWN MICHAEL

Michael from the Rose & Thorn core group is now doing fetish (and regular) photography in his home studio. E-mail him directly for a sample of his work. Because he is relatively new to portrait/fetish photography (although not photography in general) he is offering a special deal to Rose & Thorn newsletter readers. While he is building up his portfolio he will be doing the sitting at cost. The set he did with Sadie cost less than $50.

You can contact him directly at: fletch1107@adelphia.net

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POWER EXCHANGE OF NEW ENGLAND (PENE) - formerly LEATHERBOUND NORTHEAST)

For more info contact: trishnh@hotmail.com

http://welcome.to/PENE

Power Exchange of New England (Pansexual). Monthly munches, socials, and special events. Serving southern NH and VT. Munches every second Tuesday at the Elm City Pub and Brewery in the Colony Mill Marketplace, 222 West Street, Keene NH. Social nights out the last Friday of each month at the Rainbow Cattle Co. Rt. 5 East Dummerston VT. from 8:30-? casual dress.

November 10th - SPANKSGIVING PARTY... Spanking contest, donations sought to

help battered women.

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WEST LEBANON, NH BDSM MUNCH

For more info contact: UVMunch@valley.net

Munch is at the Powerhouse Mall in West Lebanon from 2:00 to 4:30 PM.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/UVMunch/

Nov 18^th

Dec 16^th

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WHITE MOUNTAINS GROUP

For more info contact: Ppmpv@sover.net

Munches in North Conway, NH on Nov 10th as well as in Lincoln/No. Woodstock in the future

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D/S-NEWHAMPSHIRE MUNCH

hizangel_BB@ds-newhampshire.org

www.ds-newhampshire.org

Held in Londonderry - Second Saturday of each month, 11:30 AM to 3:00 PM, at WhipperSnappers restaurant on Route 102 in Londonderry, NH. Hosted by the founders of the #D/s-NewHampshire IRC channel on irc.bondage.com.

For details, subscribe to the e-mail list at:

Ds-NewHampshire-subscribe@yahoogroups.com,

or visit

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Ds-ewHampshire,

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BOUND FOR PLEASURE

heather@bfp.com

New England BDSM social group that firmly believes in Safe, Sane and Consensual activities that will reflect on the B/D, D/S, S/M, Fetish and Alternative Lifestyle Communities in a healthy and positive light.

Munches at North Shore Mall , Peabody MA

4th Wednesday of every month

6:30 PM to closing

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WESTERN MASSACHUSETTS POWER EXCHANGE

MsAlexandra@wmpe.org

413-782-8829

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CUFSmaine

CUFSmaine@aol.com

www.cufsmaine.org

Mistress Ren or Master LesVoiles

A free support, social, and education group located in Southern and Central Maine, serving Maine and New England. Our primary base of operations is Portland, Maine. We offer: monthly Munch meetings at a local restaurant/banquet center the last Sunday of every month, a monthly Newsletter, available both online (free) and via snail mail (yearly subscription to cover printing and postage costs). Also, CUFSmaine hosts bi-monthly (sometimes monthly) classes and seminars at a location safe for newbies. CUFSmaine sponsors the annual Maine B & D Shopping Spree each fall in Portland, Maine, as well as the summer time Kinky Scavenger Hunt.

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***NEW GROUP!

Alternative Lifestyles United (ALU)

http://alur.xohost.com

email: info@alur.xohost.com

ALU meets every third Saturday of the month at Augustine's in Lewiston Maine. This is a social group for people of alternative lifestyles who wish

to unite and meet others.

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CENTRAL MAINE ALLIANCE

CMA@CentralMaineAlliance.org

BDSM social & educational organization serving Maine. Our munches are held the 2nd Saturday of each month, with the place alternating between Augusta and Auburn. In addition we hold classes and other special events throughout the year, and also provide a monthly newsletter, which comes out the 4th Saturday of each month.

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UNITED LEATHERFOLK OF CT

a non-profit BDSM support/social group.

http://lauragoodwin.org

laura@lauragoodwin.org

United Leatherfolk of CT (Pansexual) founded in March 1990, is a non-profit support and social group for BDSM men and women of all orientations. Intimate and very friendly. Not public. No fees. Contact me via email if you wish to be considered for membership. This club is especially welcoming and helpful for singles and newbies, but enthusiasts at all levels of development will be comfortable with us. Don't be alone in a crowd: join ULC for the personal attention you need. Email Laura Goodwin for membership info.

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CONNECTICUT BDSM MUNCH

New Haven, CT

Fleursss@aol.com. http://www.wildfleurs.com/munch

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WESTCHESTER DOM/ME S SUB

Master.Dyh@verizon.net

Northern Suburbs of NYC, primarily Westchester, Munches on the first Sunday of every month at 5 PM. Play parties on the third Friday of the month.

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ROCHESTER KINK SOCIETY

http://www.rks-society.com/events.htm

BDSM organization located in Rochester, NY. Our Mission: To provide BDSM and Kink-Oriented persons with a safe space for learning, practicing, and discussing BDSM and related kink. Holding monthly munches, meetings, demonstrations, workshops, playparties and online discussions.

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NEW ENGLAND LEATHER ALLIANCE

NELA is an organization dedicated to making a safe place in the world for all leather/fetishes/SM people through education, advocacy, and charitable giving. They have an excellent quarterly newsletter, and are well known throughout New England as one of our premier organizations. Membership is only $10 (what a deal!) which give you free entry to the Fetish Flea Market in Boston.

www.nla-newengland.org

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BOSTON DUNGEON SOCIETY

www.bostondungeon.org

bds-staff@bdsbbs.com

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MASTERS AND SLAVES TOGETHER (MasT)

www.mast.net/boston

BosDsCpl@aol.com

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PADDLEBORO DEFENSE LEAGUE

www.paddleboro.com

info@paddleboro.com

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CANADA

DSSG - Dominant/submissive Support Group

http://www.dssg.org

dssg@home.com

Munches. workshops, Kinky Craft Fairs & play parties in Hamilton, Ontario

Discussion group in Toronto, Ontario

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ONE TIME BDSM EVENTS

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CARTER STEVENS POCONO FALL FLING

Nov 9-11 2001

Full details and updates are available on the web at http://www.smnews.com/parties/party-01.htm

The Carter Stevens Fall Party in the Poconos is selling out much more quickly than we expected. All the quality of a world class resort and a first class weekend long party with separate areas for Fetish play and spanking only participants. The official confirmed date is November 9-11, 2001. Early arrival and late departure dates are also available at additional costs.

We have held the line on price. We are keeping this party at our same low 1998 prices. $550 per couple, $425 per Single male (Subject to Double occupancy), $250 per Single Female (Subject to Double occupancy). Early arrival and late departure also available at extra cost ($80/couple per night including a meal). These prices will never be this low again.

Be sure to mention membership in any recognized spanking or Fetish support group to receive a 5% discount on the party weekend. (Make sure you mention if you have attended former Carter Stevens weekends to receive an even bigger discount!)

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