~ From the movie Dolores Claiborne

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THE ROSE & THORN WEEKLY NEWZ

Sunday, October 28^th 2001

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FEATURED ARTICLES IN THIS STEAMING ISSUE:

Sadie Comes Out As A Bawdy Girl And So Much More - Part I of II - By Submissive Sadie

Compliments on the Fabulous Photo that Michael took of Submissive Sadie - from our readers

Rashoman Meets BDSM - Part II of III - By Master Doug

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SADIE COMES OUT AS A BAWDY GIRL AND SO MUCH MORE Part 1 of 2

By Submissive Sadie

Burlvtsub@aol.com

We tend to think of the erotic as an easy, tantalizing sexual arousal. I speak of the erotic as the deepest life force, a force which moves us toward living in a fundamental way.

~ Audre Lorde

The other day my sister asked me if I had ever known a man who was as sexually oriented as I was. Not just in having or wanting sex, but in looking at the world through a sort of rose-colored sexual lens. After a few minutes thought, I realized that no, I hadn't. Sure, men love sex and spend a lot of time chasing it, but it's more than that. I look at the world from a paradigm of the erotic, which is expressed through my interests, my sense of humor and the kind of people I surround myself with. My sister thought that maybe that mindset was something genetic in the women of our family since she and mom were the same way. She described me as a Mae West type - a bawdy girl. At last, an archetype that fit.

So, when I came out in the D/s community (such as it was), it wasn't all that dramatic a moment. That moment arrived when I was chatting to my friend Zenobia, and I told her, with much hemming and hawing, about my sexual orientation. To my surprise she replied "Oh, I knew THAT!" Well it turns out that she had a friend who was into the BDSM scene and she had been tipped off by my everyday conversational language. As a writer, she was more attuned to those things, but it still surprised me that she could read me that easily.

MEETING MY FIRST OUT FRIEND

Zenobia introduced me to her out and about friend Chance. He was the first person I met who lived the BDSM scene in the open, with unfettered joy. I questioned him for hours as he explained how it all worked and how he had suffered no ill effects from the process. While he talked, all I could think about was my own fears of course. I was afraid that if people knew, I'd lose credibility as a columnist. I was afraid that I wouldn't fit into the "leather" crowd, being a pretty typical Vermonter with an apartment, a job, an active church life, and so on. I was afraid, because I knew at the most intimate level, that this would change my life.

Still, green as I was, I could see that BDSM folk experience a similar process of coming out that the lesbian/gay crowd has experienced for the last few decades. Both on a personal and a group level, we learn to accept our orientation and take the steps to pride, the steps that release us from fear. The process for us is newer with so very few of us out of the BDSM closet. Only in this last decade are we blessed with the internet and the monumental difference that makes in our access to information and our ability to build community, even in an obscure spot like Vermont.

I started my own coming out with research, reading, and exploring until I had an idea where I wanted to start. Then I had to come out to myself, which can be the hardest step of all. Issues of consentuality were always clear to me, and being brought up a Unitarian-Universalist (a religion with a liberal tradition), there was no residual guilt. So at least in the beginning, I felt very little conflict - but it sure did help having Chance, who not only listened to me but took me to my first Munch. But I am unusual I know. Many men struggle with their upbringing which taught them not to hit women, or that they were a wimp if they allowed someone to hit them. Women struggle with the specter of domestic violence that appears, on the surface, to have something to do with BDSM. For those of us who are feminists, we wonder how to reconcile a need to submit. Blessedly free from most of these issues, I jumped right into the dating scene.

TELLING MY FRIENDS

My venue of choice for dating - there being no world wide web at the time - was alt.bondage.personals which was the first place I discovered information about BDSM, as well as a vast supply of Dominant men (or at least men who said they were). As I learned how to talk to them about my own sexual orientation, I used these skills to also tell my friends about it - a process which became easier with each telling. Fortunately, my friends were mostly liberal intellectual types with nary a redneck in the bunch - and the response varied from a vague disinterest to a smile accompanied by a raised eyebrow. I tailored my explanations to the sexual sophistication of the listener, being careful to make sure they didn't get caught up in silly stereotypes of submissives being doormats or Dominants being abusers.

Most people have at one time or another engaged in a little silk-ties-to-the-bed type of bondage or a friendly spanking, so I used these common denominators to help them understand. I call that the "vanilla" version of D/s since these things are palatable to just about everyone. Sometimes I bring out a purple deerskin flogger so they can see how gentle and sexy the toy is. (not to mention the fact that it matches my outfits so well ;) Most importantly, I recognized that explaining BDSM takes patience, so I gave each person sufficient time to absorb the information and ask lots of questions. If they are ready and interested, we talk in more depth about things like the eroticism of pain and how serving can be a great gift.

A short word of warning here - be sure to tell your friends that what you are telling them is absolutely confidential. This may be obvious to you, but this kind of juicy gossip can be a temptation. For example, one of my friends who didn't have strong boundaries "outed" me to another person. He didn't do it on purpose, he really just felt that he was giving his friend additional information about me, but his way of explaining BDSM was unquestionably not the way I would have explained it. As a result, when I met this third party he treated me like I was a slut, which I am not. Like it or not, based on the mores of our culture, it was natural for him to think I would hop in bed with him. I was never able to get this man over his initial impression of me, and so any possible friendship was doomed.

PS - I encourage all of you to write me and tell me your stories of coming out. I would like to share them with others through our weekly newsletter.

***Part II of this column will run in next week's Rose & Thorn Weekly NEWZ

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Submissive Sadie is the founder and leader of Rose & Thorn, Vermont's BDSM social group. Comments, compliments and complaints, as well as requests for reprinting can be addressed to her at BurlVTSub@aol.com. Sadie believes that the universe is abundant, and that sharing information freely is part of this abundance, so she allows reprints of her writing in most venues.

Copyright August, 2001.

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COMPLIMENTS ON THE FABULOUS PHOTO THAT MICHAEL TOOK OF SUBMISSIVE SADIE - FROM OUR READERS

Wonderful compliments on the photo of me (Submissive Sadie) that Michael took and which was sent out with the Rose & Thorn Weekly NEWZ a few weeks back. Despite our best efforts, there were tech problems with the jpeg attachment for some readers.

The jpeg worked fine if I sent it directly to readers (not as a blind cc) so if you haven't seen it - drop me an e-mail and I'll send you your very own copy!

Thank you everyone for your compliments!

~ Sadie

COMPLIMENTS INCLUDED:

You look beautiful!

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Damn i wish i was your sub :)

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I love the hat,, :-)… frankly, love all of it.

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A big WOW about your new pic... You are BEYOND delicious:)

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Nice pic!!!!!!! :)

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WOW !!! What a knock out ........ lets see more. Great picture what a great way to start out the day thanks.

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You have the most DELICIOUS figure.....leaves me breathless!

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You torture me every time you send your pic. I love it.

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Too amazing for mere words Sadie!!!

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Hey, those are some damn nice assets!

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WOW! hey, ya need to be hypnotized?

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Sadie sure has some fine assets :O) <wink>

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Yum, yum.

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Mmmmm mmmmm mmmmmm. Delightful my dear Sadie,

delightful. I look forward to seeing the rest of your

lovely...assets.

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Better and better my lovely Sadie.

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Stunning!

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You are deliciously. . . voluptuous!

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I certainly appreciate your assets. Simply delightful.

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REFERENCES FOR PLAY PARTNER CHECKLISTS (to give to your Dom/me so they know what you like/don't like etc.)

http://ms.ha.md.us/~tammad/over21/bondage/sub-checklist.html

ALSO CHECK OUT THIS BOOK FOR AN EXCELLENT AND HUMOROUS LIST:

Screw the Roses, Send Me The Thorns - The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism. Molly Devon, Phillip Miller, William Granzig

(Sadie's Favorite because it has great photos and humor too)

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LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

This is the SECOND in a three part letter series from my friend Doug who lives out in California.

Rashoman Meets BDSM

By Master Doug

dougb415@yahoo.com

[continued from last week. If you missed that sexy story write for a copy of it]

Here I was, back in my old Dom element; this I was familiar with, and even tho I had not physically Dommed anyone for over 5 years, it was not hard to re-acquaint myself with the ways of that world, shall we say. I felt the familiar rush of power, the all-powerful sexuality, the focusing in on my partner, playing her like a Stradivarius, "using" her for my/her/our needs. But now it would be different. In the space of 5 minutes the tables would be turned again. Our nipple foreplay felt like tag teaming; okay, you play while I enjoy, now it's my turn! But this... went from one pretty powerful scene where I had pushed my new partner to lose control - and now it was going to be her turn to play with me. Could I even allow that? Would the Dom in me enjoy having my partner turn the tables, a partner I had just fisted, who's ass was still red and burning? I was all over the place inside my skin, waves crashing hard thru my soul. We had our own little reality there, there was nothing outside of her house. My head, my soul, my crotch, my whole being was on fire, wondering what would come next.

We took a little break to catch our breath, and then she gently took off my shoes, pants and underwear. She told me to kneel in front of her and to keep my hands together behind my back. I could feel the Dom space slowly sinking, but this woman was so good, she knew what to do... using firm tenderness, she allowed me to decompress without ravaging my ego in the process. This was no bitch slut in shiny leather telling me that I was a worm, forcing me to lick her bootheels... no, my immediate feeling about her was "Allow me to take care of you in the way we both know you will enjoy." More damned nipple play again... ouch! More! Then she'd take her fingernails and rake them over my chest and stomach, down to my crotch. She grabbed my cock and was using her fingernails to play with the opening, scratching me lightly. And that grin. Oh, that grin. At one point my hands came out front, and I quickly put them behind my back. "Good boy," she said. Oh! I'm a good boy! I was sooooooooooo happy...

She got up, told me to bend over and lay my head and hands on the couch, with my legs spread and my ass wide open. I wanted this so badly... had been waiting for years to give my ass to a woman. Finally. Ah, all was right with the world as I kneeled, as exposed as I'd ever been in my life. I couldn't see what she was doing, but I assumed she went into the bedroom to get some lube. She came back and again told me what a good boy I was (sigh), and what a nice ass I had (double sigh). She began to spank me (yes!), but she spanked so lightly that I almost called out for her to hit harder. The spanks got harder, and I was paying attention to her style, in that she spanks with a downward stroke, not a direct smack. But also, some of her spanks were directed at my balls... uh-oh. That could make a bad pain, and I think she felt my apprehension. Staying more with my ass, the spanks got harder and I started sinking deep, pushing my ass out to take more of her attention. Then I heard the snap of a rubber glove and felt the wet coolness of the lube on my asshole. Yes yes yes yes yes!!!! I felt a finger invade me, rubbing back and forth. More more more more more more more |.. she went deeper, twisting and probing. I was gone - that's all there is to it. Dom space was pushed out of my mind, and I belonged to her completely. At some point she put another finger in and started fucking me faster; I could not have stopped her even if I wanted to - I even reached behind and used my hands to open my ass wider - but I started saying "Burns... burns... burns... burns..." Not that I wanted her to stop, just letting her know the feeling. I was hoping she'd lube me up some more and use more fingers, but she decided to stop. That's okay. She had me lay down on the couch on my back and worked her fingernails over my body. Somewhere in here two things happened that affected me profoundly. At one point I reached out and hugged her for dear life, not wanting to let go. At another I took her hand, positioned it over my balls with my hand on top, and pushed her hand around my balls, making her grab them. It didn't hurt. Somehow way down deep this was my animal response: I truly had given myself to her. We took another small break. By now it was 2 a.m. This round was over... and we both won. Now it was like two venerable warriors honoring each other, paying each other the highest compliment. Neither one of us was ready to back down, neither was going to stop.

I came back and while she was sitting on the couch, I had her stroking and licking my cock. Soon I was face-fucking her, pulling her hair so that I would go deeper down her throat. Then I would pull out so that only the head was between her lips, and slowly pushed it into her mouth again. At one point she did gag a little and I could feel her tense up, so I adjusted the pressure accordingly. I'm a good 8-9" long and fairly thick, and I have to remember that. So I took it easy on her - remember, this was our very first get-together! She asked me if I'd like to fuck her, and I readily complied. She was on the couch and I was kneeling in front of her. She took my cock in her hands and rubbed it up and down her slit. I got raging hard so I reached behind her waist and grabbed her so that she was right on the edge of the couch, and I moved forward and slowly sank into her. Oh oh oh oh oh... so wet, and remember, we'd been playing for four HOURS by that point.

I have to admit to having a little trouble staying fully erect, probably because of a) new partner jitters and b) playing for so long. So we would take it easy, then she'd stroke me and I'd get rock hard and would pump her furiously. We did that for a while, then moved into the bedroom because I wanted this gorgeous woman on top of me playing "Ride 'em Pony". She was all too happy to jump on, and soon she was again rocking my world wrapping that hot pussy around my cock while I abused her breasts and nipples. Right then her cat jumped up on the bed to see what was going on, and we both got a good laugh out of that. We took another little break, and I had her get on her hands and knees on the bed while I stood at the very end. I backed her up to the end of the bed and started fucking her HARD from behind, ramming into her as forcefully as I could, feeling and hearing the slap of our skin together. Then I slowed down and stopped, pulling out of her sopping pussy. I rubbed my cock up and down against her asshole, then very slowly pushed my way in. She let out a deep sigh as I buried myself to the hilt in her ass. So tight! I started fucking her ass methodically, slowly building up steam. "This is heaven" she purred at one point as I fucked and spanked her.

I could feel the orgasm starting to build inside of me, just a teeny tiny little tickle way back, then building its way up. I think she felt it too, because she started fucking me harder. Soon it was a white-hot electric torrent that had me screaming, bucking and gasping, as I pumped my cum into her hot tight beautiful ass. Lovely woman! Omigod! I helped her lay down on the bed, then I stumbled to the bathroom and washed my face, wetting a washcloth to bring back to the bed so that she too could wipe her face. I rubbed her back and massaged her shoulders, kissing her body all over. We lay there, stroking each other, words almost useless at that point. She asked if I'd like to spend the night, but unfortunately I did have to go home; I did not want to be so presumptuous to think that I would be spending the night on the first date, so I did not bring any of the things I needed for a sleepover. I could tell she was somewhat disappointed, so I made sure that I explained that it was so she would be able to get a well-deserved good night's sleep. She put on her nightshirt and I reluctantly got dressed. She kissed me goodnight tenderly, and I sadly walked out the door to get in my car. It was 4 a.m. Somehow I made it home safely, tho I was wobbly for the rest of the weekend. 6 hours of the most intense pleasure I had felt in YEARS...

And now I am eagerly looking forward to when we can get together again. I hope it isn't a long wait, but I'm trying my best to be patient... can you blame me for wanting more?

Have mercy indeed!

SSCOT'S VERSION OF THESE EVENTS CONTINUED IN NEXT WEEK'S ROSE & THORN WEEKLY NEWZ!

**If you liked this story - do write Doug and tell him! Maybe we can get him to write some more….

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REGIONAL VT & NEW ENGLAND BDSM EVENT & ANNOUNCEMENT LIST

****This list has been updated with most of the organized BDSM groups in the New England area plus one time events at the bottom.

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ROSE & THORN BDSM SOCIAL EVENTS

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For more info contact me: BurlVTSub@aol.com

UPCOMING DATES (Usually the third Saturday of the month):

Saturday November 17^th Thanksgiving Party (Burlington)

Saturday December 15^th Holiday party & BDSM Gift Swap (Richmond). This is a RED themed party - please wear a red accountrement.

Saturday January 19^th New Year's Party (Burlington) - This is a PURPLE themed party - please wear a purple accountrement.

Saturday February 16^th Dinner OUT at a restaurant. Please wear evening dress - nothing too wild please!

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GENERAL BDSM ANNOUNCEMENTS

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BDSM RECIPES & POEMS WANTED!

sa_kinah@hotmail.com

sa`kinah of ALU in Maine is in the process of developing a BDSM recipe book for people in the lifestyle. She welcomes recipes and poems from Dom/mes, Subs, Switches and everyone in between! Please send your materials to her directly. (I'd also love to run your poetry in this newsletter if you want to copy me on the poetry - thanks!)

For more information on Alternative Lifestyles United (ALU) contact:

http://alur.xohost.com

email: info@alur.xohost.com

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FETISH PHOTOGRAPHY NOW AVAILABLE FROM OUR VERY OWN MICHAEL

Michael from the Rose & Thorn core group is now doing fetish (and regular) photography in his home studio. E-mail him directly for a sample of his work. Because he is relatively new to portrait/fetish photography (although not photography in general) he is offering a special deal to Rose & Thorn newsletter readers. While he is building up his portfolio he will be doing the sitting at cost. The set he did with Sadie cost less than $50.

You can contact him directly at: fletch1107@adelphia.net

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OTHER GROUPS & EVENTS NEARBY

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****This data is for informational purposes only. It does not imply endorsement by Rose & Thorn of any organization listed here, nor does R&T accept any liability for activities held.

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POWER EXCHANGE OF NEW ENGLAND (PENE) - formerly LEATHERBOUND NORTHEAST)

For more info contact: trishnh@hotmail.com

http://welcome.to/PENE

Power Exchange of New England (Pansexual). Monthly munches, socials, and special events. Serving southern NH and VT. Munches every second Tuesday at the Elm City Pub and Brewery in the Colony Mill Marketplace, 222 West Street, Keene NH. Social nights out the last Friday of each month at the Rainbow Cattle Co. Rt. 5 East Dummerston VT. from 8:30-? casual dress.

October 26th Social Night Out - Rainbow Cattle Co. 8-midnight.

November 10th - SPANKSGIVING PARTY... Spanking contest, donations sought to

help battered women.

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WEST LEBANON, NH BDSM MUNCH

For more info contact: UVMunch@valley.net

Munch is at the Powerhouse Mall in West Lebanon from 2:00 to 4:30 PM.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/UVMunch/

Nov 18^th

Dec 16^th

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WHITE MOUNTAINS GROUP

For more info contact: Ppmpv@sover.net

Munches in North Conway, NH on Nov 10th as well as in Lincoln/No. Woodstock in the future

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D/S-NEWHAMPSHIRE MUNCH

hizangel_BB@ds-newhampshire.org

www.ds-newhampshire.org

Held in Londonderry - Second Saturday of each month, 11:30 AM to 3:00 PM, at WhipperSnappers restaurant on Route 102 in Londonderry, NH. Hosted by the founders of the #D/s-NewHampshire IRC channel on irc.bondage.com.

For details, subscribe to the e-mail list at:

Ds-NewHampshire-subscribe@yahoogroups.com,

or visit

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Ds-ewHampshire,

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BOUND FOR PLEASURE

heather@bfp.com

New England BDSM social group that firmly believes in Safe, Sane and Consensual activities that will reflect on the B/D, D/S, S/M, Fetish and Alternative Lifestyle Communities in a healthy and positive light.

Munches at North Shore Mall , Peabody MA

4th Wednesday of every month

6:30 PM to closing

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WESTERN MASSACHUSETTS POWER EXCHANGE

MsAlexandra@wmpe.org

413-782-8829

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CUFSmaine

CUFSmaine@aol.com

www.cufsmaine.org

Mistress Ren or Master LesVoiles

A free support, social, and education group located in Southern and Central Maine, serving Maine and New England. Our primary base of operations is Portland, Maine. We offer: monthly Munch meetings at a local restaurant/banquet center the last Sunday of every month, a monthly Newsletter, available both online (free) and via snail mail (yearly subscription to cover printing and postage costs). Also, CUFSmaine hosts bi-monthly (sometimes monthly) classes and seminars at a location safe for newbies. CUFSmaine sponsors the annual Maine B & D Shopping Spree each fall in Portland, Maine, as well as the summer time Kinky Scavenger Hunt.

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***NEW GROUP!

Alternative Lifestyles United (ALU)

http://alur.xohost.com

email: info@alur.xohost.com

ALU meets every third Saturday of the month at Augustine's in Lewiston Maine. This is a social group for people of alternative lifestyles who wish

to unite and meet others.

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CENTRAL MAINE ALLIANCE

CMA@CentralMaineAlliance.org

BDSM social & educational organization serving Maine. Our munches are held the 2nd Saturday of each month, with the place alternating between Augusta and Auburn. In addition we hold classes and other special events throughout the year, and also provide a monthly newsletter, which comes out the 4th Saturday of each month.

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UNITED LEATHERFOLK OF CT

a non-profit BDSM support/social group.

http://lauragoodwin.org

laura@lauragoodwin.org

United Leatherfolk of CT (Pansexual) founded in March 1990, is a non-profit support and social group for BDSM men and women of all orientations. Intimate and very friendly. Not public. No fees. Contact me via email if you wish to be considered for membership. This club is especially welcoming and helpful for singles and newbies, but enthusiasts at all levels of development will be comfortable with us. Don't be alone in a crowd: join ULC for the personal attention you need. Email Laura Goodwin for membership info.

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CONNECTICUT BDSM MUNCH

New Haven, CT

Fleursss@aol.com. http://www.wildfleurs.com/munch

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WESTCHESTER DOM/ME S SUB

Master.Dyh@verizon.net

Northern Suburbs of NYC, primarily Westchester, Munches on the first Sunday of every month at 5 PM. Play parties on the third Friday of the month.

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ROCHESTER KINK SOCIETY

http://www.rks-society.com/events.htm

BDSM organization located in Rochester, NY. Our Mission: To provide BDSM and Kink-Oriented persons with a safe space for learning, practicing, and discussing BDSM and related kink. Holding monthly munches, meetings, demonstrations, workshops, playparties and online discussions.

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NEW ENGLAND LEATHER ALLIANCE

NELA is an organization dedicated to making a safe place in the world for all leather/fetishes/SM people through education, advocacy, and charitable giving. They have an excellent quarterly newsletter, and are well known throughout New England as one of our premier organizations. Membership is only $10 (what a deal!) which give you free entry to the Fetish Flea Market in Boston.

www.nla-newengland.org

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BOSTON DUNGEON SOCIETY

www.bostondungeon.org

bds-staff@bdsbbs.com

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MASTERS AND SLAVES TOGETHER (MasT)

www.mast.net/boston

BosDsCpl@aol.com

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PADDLEBORO DEFENSE LEAGUE

www.paddleboro.com

info@paddleboro.com

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CANADA

DSSG - Dominant/submissive Support Group

http://www.dssg.org

dssg@home.com

Munches. workshops, Kinky Craft Fairs & play parties in Hamilton, Ontario

Discussion group in Toronto, Ontario

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ONE TIME BDSM EVENTS

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CARTER STEVENS POCONO FALL FLING

Nov 9-11 2001

Full details and updates are available on the web at http://www.smnews.com/parties/party-01.htm

The Carter Stevens Fall Party in the Poconos is selling out much more quickly than we expected. All the quality of a world class resort and a first class weekend long party with separate areas for Fetish play and spanking only participants. The official confirmed date is November 9-11, 2001. Early arrival and late departure dates are also available at additional costs.

We have held the line on price. We are keeping this party at our same low 1998 prices. $550 per couple, $425 per Single male (Subject to Double occupancy), $250 per Single Female (Subject to Double occupancy). Early arrival and late departure also available at extra cost ($80/couple per night including a meal). These prices will never be this low again.

Be sure to mention membership in any recognized spanking or Fetish support group to receive a 5% discount on the party weekend. (Make sure you mention if you have attended former Carter Stevens weekends to receive an even bigger discount!)

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REQUEST COPIES OF OUR MOST POPULAR ARTICLES! Just e-mail Sadie with the one you want.

ARTICLES BY SUBMISSIVE SADIE:

How to Get Involved in the BDSM Lifestyle

Mistress Sadie Speaks

Submissive Sadie's Top Ten Tips for Dating Doms

Sadie Comes Out and So Much More!

I've Been Invited To A Play Party! Should I go?

FAQ about Rose & Thorn

What Every Novice Dom/me Should Have In Their Toy Bag - A list from our members

OTHER POPULAR COLUMNS

Play Party Etiquette by Mistress Ren of CUFSmaine

SM Vs. Abuse

Ten Rules for Dominants

Chastity Belts by Altairboy

BDSM LISTS AND RESOURCES

R&T Member's Favorite Websites

Consignment shops in Northern Vermont (for dressing BDSM)

Stores & shops that sell BDSM Paraphernalia in Northern Vermont

BDSM Symbol patches & other items

Books

Movies

Songs

POEMS

By Cynthia, Flirt, Bruce, Josephine, Anne & Amber

ARTICLES IN THE GROUP LEADER SERIES - BY SUBMISSIVE SADIE

The Trials and Tribulations… and Joys, of Running Rose & Thorn of Vermont. (And Tips on How To Start Your Own Group!)

How to Screen Guests for a BDSM Organization

Managing A Large E-Mail Addresses List – Tips & Tricks for Peace of Mind

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