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The seduction emanating from a person of uncertain or dissimulated sex is powerful. ~ Colette
--'--,--`--<@ --'--,--`--<@ --'--,--`--<@ --'--,--`--<@ THE ROSE & THORN WEEKLY NEWZ Sunday, July 1st, 2001 --'--,--`--<@ --'--,--`--<@ --'--,--`--<@ --'--,--`--<@
FEATURED ARTICLES IN THIS STEAMING ISSUE: Change in R&T Party Dates Private Party Etiquette - By Mistress Ren Of CUFSmaine EVENTS NEAR AND SEMI-NEAR New Munch in White Mountains, NH Area Picasso Erotique Show in Montreal The Regional Events Listing ADMINISTRIVIA Request Copies Of Our Most Popular Articles! How To Get Off Or On The Mailing List, Submit Articles, Etc. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> CHANGE IN R&T PARTY DATES *Due to scheduling conflicts we've changed our upcoming schedule of events. Please note the new dates below. Saturday July 21st **In Burlington - All Day BBQ starting at 3 PM - everyone welcome! Rose & Thorn party starts at 8 PM officially. Saturday August 11th Underhill - Dinner BBQ & Pool Party Saturday September 1st Saturday September 22nd Saturday October 20th Saturday November 17th Thanksgiving Party Saturday December 15th Holiday party & Gift Swap <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><>
This is the SECOND of a Series of Five Articles on BDSM Etiquette By Mistress Ren of CUFSmaine. These will run every two weeks. Please check out their fine website for other excellent articles and references. CUFSmaine@aol.com www.cufsmaine.org The complete series includes: General Etiquette Private Party Etiquette Online Etiquette Public Etiquette Club Etiquette PRIVATE PARTY ETIQUETTE DO NOT DISCUSS THE PARTY INVITATION WITH OTHERS. When you receive an invite to a private party, it is best to not discuss it with others in the scene. Imagine how awful you would feel to tell someone about your invitation, only to discover they did not get invited. Party hosts cannot always invite everyone they would like to usually because their house or play space may be too small. If you are curious as to who else is attending, ask the host…they will be glad to tell you. DO NOT PERSONALLY INVITE OTHERS TO A PRIVATE PLAY PARTY UNLESS YOU HAVE THE HOST’S PERMISSION. If you would like to bring a new partner or friend to the party, contact the host and ask their permission first. Chances are you will be allowed to do so, but if your host prefers that you not bring a particular person or a stranger, please comply with their wishes. Also, if the host has forgotten to invite your regular partner, let them know….they will appreciate you informing them of the oversight. ASSUME RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR GUESTS. If you bring someone to the party whom the hosts have not previously met, please keep in mind that you are responsible for their actions. Keep an eye on them at all times, personally escort them about the host’s home if need be, and make sure they obey all rules. Remember…if your guest does something wrong, it will reflect badly upon you. ASK THE HOST’S PERMISSION IF YOU WANT TO BRING A CAMERA OR VIDEOCAM. Some BDSMer’s enjoy taking photos and video of their scenes. If you would like to take pictures of your scene while at a private party, check with the host first. This way, your host can let other party goers know that film is rolling, and, if they don’t want to be in pictures, to avoid a certain room or area of their dungeon. Most people attending parties do not want their pictures taken, so before you snap away, get that person’s permission. As always, if your host prefers that you leave the cameras at home, comply with their wishes. ARRIVE ON TIME, OR MAKE PLANS WITH THE HOST FOR ARRIVING LATER. Try to arrive at a party no later than 30 minutes after the start time. Usually, the first hour or so at a private party is social time and set up time. After the first hour, folks begin filtering off to different areas to scene. The host has a number of duties to attend to once the party gets into full swing….and rushing to get the door for a latecomer should not be one of them. Please plan to arrive on time or slightly before the party. If you know you are going to be late for a specific reason, let your host know approximately when you will be arriving…this way the host can arrange to have somebody let you in and show you where to put your coat and change clothes. TRAVEL WITH YOUR TOYS IN DISCREET BAGS AND PACKAGING. Gym bags are good for this purpose….but riot whips, canes, portable stocks and other bulky equipment are a problem. One solution: Wrap large items in sheets when carrying them into the hosts house. Another good solution: fishing rod cases for canes and other long items. Remember…the neighbors will be curious…let’s keep them guessing! ARRIVE IN APPROPRIATE STREET CLOTHING. Your hosts might have neighbors….they might love to gossip. Need we say more? BRING SOMETHING FOR THE COMMUNITY TABLE (BUFFET). Usually a buffet is organized for the evening, and you may be asked to contribute. Ask the host what would be appropriate to bring: appetizer? Entree? Dessert? Non-alcoholic beverages? Plates, cups, napkins or plasticware? If your host says you need not bring anything, a small gift for the host, or something the entire ensemble can use (such as condoms or a special piece of BDSM equipment) is appropriate. OFFER YOUR ASSISTANCE. Is there anything the host needs done? Can you help in any way? Chances are, things will be well under control….but a host really DOES appreciate the offer. ALL RULES PREVIOUSLY OUTLINED FOR CLUBS ARE OBSERVED AT PRIVATE PARTIES AS WELL. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that a private home party is a "free for all"; the fact is, some home parties have stricter rules. Rules should have been sent out by your host after your accepted your invitation. Rules should also be posted at the party. If you do not know the rules, ask for them: Follow them. If you have any concerns about a scene you would like to do, check with your hosts. RESPECT THE PARTY ASSISTANTS. Many private and club parties have "party slaves" who assist the host with set up, food preparation, Dungeon Master duties, etc. These folks are not at the party to be everyone’s personal playthings. Do not touch them or harass them. If they want to play, they will let you know, but if they are only there to help the host, respect their space and their contributions to the party. RESPECT "THIS ROOM OFF LIMITS" SIGNS. There are reasons certain rooms are off limits. Perhaps it is a child’s room or a private home office. Whatever the reason, respect these signs and your hosts wishes. IF YOU WOULDN’T DO IT AT YOUR HOUSE, DON’T DO IT AT SOMEONE ELSE’S. Remember what the lunch lady used to scream at everyone after a high school food fight? "Would you do this at home??? If you wouldn’t do it at home, what makes you think it is okay to do it here?!?!? Keep this simple rule in mind when you get the urge to do something risky, messy or off limits at your host’s home. BE COURTEOUS TO OTHER GUESTS AND NATURE- DON’T SCENE IN THE BATHROOM. Have you ever waited outside a bathroom, crossing your legs, jiggling up and down because you HAD to "go", but the bathroom was occupied by people sceneing?? Keep the bathroom off limits to play. If your hosts have a second or third bathroom and have designated these for play, use only these designated areas. BE CONSIDERATE OF NEIGHBORS … KEEP THE NOISE LEVELS DOWN. Sometimes play parties, like any parties, can get noisy. One way to mask some of the sounds is to play music in the areas of your home or meeting place where sceneing will take place. If you have a particularly loud submissive, consider using a gag. Most residential areas and neighbors will put up with occasional party noises, and will make no complaints as long as the loudness stops by 9pm weeknights and 11pm on a weekend. If your host lives in a rural area, it is still polite to check with the host before conducting loud scenes or allowing your sub to scream his/her head off. KEEP THE SOCIAL ROOM SOCIAL. The social room is a place to relax, chat and eat. It should be kept strictly social. Starting a scene, fondling, exposing yourself or undressing for a scene should be done elsewhere. Be Sanitary and Polite….Wash Your Hands After a Scene, But BEFORE You Dig Into The Food. You just had your hands WHERE?? And you are PICKING THROUGH the finger sandwiches and chip bowl??? Need we discuss this further?? Offer To Assist With Clean Up. Even if you can only offer your host 5 minutes, it is helpful. 15 people giving 5 minutes of help can establish much. Your host has put a lot of work into setting up the evening. Give them a hand and help make their evening a little easier.
All material Copyright Mistress Ren and LesVoiles. Please do not reproduce without permission.
<><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> NEW MUNCH IN WHITE MOUNTAINS, NH AREA Hosted by Ed of the Upper Valley Munch Date: 1st Sunday in August - Sunday, August 5th Time: 2 PM to 4 PM Location: The Mill at Lincoln, Lincoln NH Millfront Marketplace's food court Route 112 in Lincoln, NH - off Exit #32 on I-93. Organized by UVMunch@valley.net <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> PICASSO EROTIQUE - AN EXHIBITION OF 350 CANVASES, ETCHINGS, SCULPTURES AND DRAWINGS FROM ABOUT 1900 TO 1972 Where: Jean-Noel Desmarais Pavillion, Montreal Museum of Fine Arts, 1380 Sherbrooke Street West (514) 285-2000 www.mmfa.qc.ca Through September 16th daily 10 AM - 6 PM, Wednesday until 9 PM Admission (Canadian) Adults $15, Students & seniors $7.50. Half price on Wednesdays. Events: Guided tours in English at 2PM, 2:30 PM, and 5 PM on Wednesdays free with admission. "Legacy of Genius," a film in English exploring the impact of Picasso's work on 20th century art, will be shown at 4 PM on 8/12, 8/19, 8/26, 9/8, 9/9, 9/15 and 9/16. Tickets can be purchased in advance through 877-Beaux-Art s<><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> REGIONAL VT & NEW ENGLAND BDSM EVENT LIST ****This list has been updated with most of the organized BDSM groups in the New England area plus one time events at the bottom.
<><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> ROSE & THORN BDSM SOCIAL EVENTS <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> For more info contact me: BurlVTSub@aol.com UPCOMING DATES: UPCOMING DATES: Saturday July 21st All Day BBQ Saturday August 11th Dinner BBQ Saturday September 1st Saturday September 22nd Saturday October 20th Saturday November 17th Thanksgiving Party Saturday December 15th Holiday party & Gift Swap Saturday January 19th New Year's Party Saturday February 16th Dinner OUT at a restaurant <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><>
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****This data is for informational purposes only. It does not imply endorsement by Rose & Thorn of any organization listed here, nor does R&T accept any liability for activities held.
<><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> POWER EXCHANGE OF NEW ENGLAND (PENE) - formerly LEATHERBOUND NORTHEAST) For more info contact: trishnh@hotmail.com http://welcome.to/PENE Power Exchange of New England (Pansexual). Monthly munches, socials, and special events. Serving southern NH and VT. Munches every second Tuesday at the Elm City Pub and Brewery in the Colony Mill Marketplace, 222 West Street, Keene NH. Social nights out the last Friday of each month at the Rainbow Cattle Co. Rt. 5 East Dummerston VT. from 8:30-? casual dress. PENE at the 17th FFF. Stop by our tables for information on BDSM, and handouts on : YOUR KINKY IF YOU.... , BDSM is about SEX, What to expect at a play party etc. We will also have our events list and will be raffling off a KINK BASKET. Filled with goodies including an underwater Rabbit. Raffle tickets will be 1.00 each or 6 for 5.00. July 14th Corsetry Class 2-4 PM. Please join us as Heather of BFP (Bound for Pleasure) teaches her popular class, Corsetry! Learn about the history and fashion uses of these wonderful devices, as well as the BDSM uses! Heather will teach you to pick out the perfect corset for your body shape and instruct you in proper wearing and care. This class is open to ALL corset fans - female and male. If you own a corset, bring it to class....if you don't own one yet, or just like to look at them, please join us as well. This class is also recommended for all submissives who wish to become proficient at lacing up their Mistresses! And Dom's who want to shape up their subbies. This will be a 2 hour class and we are planning on having it outdoors undercover. There is a 5.00 charge for printed materials that go with the class. RSVP by July 6th. Social Night July 27th... location TBA. Special ALL day event Aug. 25th A Day of Doming Demo's, Dragon of Dragon Designs will presents various aspects of doming e.g.: full body bondage, Flogging, Frugal Dom tips Members of PENE will also give various demo's on the Violet Wand, Labia weights, and use of the Single Tail.. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> WEST LEBANON, NH BDSM MUNCH For more info contact: UVMunch@valley.net Munch is at the Powerhouse Mall in West Lebanon from 2:00 to 4:30 PM. July 15th Aug 19th, Sept 16th Oct 21st Nov 18th Dec 16th <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> WHITE MOUNTAINS MUNCH *** New Group! Date: 1st Sunday in August - Sunday, August 5th Time: 2 PM to 4 PM Location: The Mill at Lincoln, Lincoln NH Millfront Marketplace's food court Route 112 in Lincoln, NH - off Exit #32 on I-93. Organized by UVMunch@valley.net <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><>
BOUND FOR PLEASURE heather@bfp.com New England BDSM social group that firmly believes in Safe, Sane and Consensual activities that will reflect on the B/D, D/S, S/M, Fetish and Alternative Lifestyle Communities in a healthy and positive light. Munches at North Shore Mall , Peabody MA 4th Wednesday of every month 6:30 PM to closing
<><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> WESTERN MASSACHUSETTS POWER EXCHANGE MsAlexandra@wmpe.org 413-782-8829 www.wmpe.org <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> CUFSmaine CUFSmaine@aol.com www.cufsmaine.org Mistress Ren or Master LesVoiles A free support, social, and education group located in Southern and Central Maine, serving Maine and New England. Our primary base of operations is Portland, Maine. We offer: monthly Munch meetings at a local restaurant/banquet center the last Sunday of every month, a monthly Newsletter, available both online (free) and via snail mail (yearly subscription to cover printing and postage costs). Also, CUFSmaine hosts bi-monthly (sometimes monthly) classes and seminars at a location safe for newbies. CUFSmaine sponsors the annual Maine B & D Shopping Spree each fall in Portland, Maine, as well as the summer time Kinky Scavenger Hunt. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> CENTRAL MAINE ALLIANCE CMA@CentralMaineAlliance.org BDSM social & educational organization serving Maine. Our munches are held the 2nd Saturday of each month, with the place alternating between Augusta and Auburn. In addition we hold classes and other special events throughout the year, and also provide a monthly newsletter, which comes out the 4th Saturday of each month. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> UNITED LEATHERFOLK OF CT a non-profit BDSM support/social group. http://lauragoodwin.org United Leatherfolk of CT (Pansexual) founded in March 1990, is a non-profit support and social group for BDSM men and women of all orientations. Intimate and very friendly. Not public. No fees. Contact me via email if you wish to be considered for membership. This club is especially welcoming and helpful for singles and newbies, but enthusiasts at all levels of development will be comfortable with us. Don't be alone in a crowd: join ULC for the personal attention you need. Email Laura Goodwin for membership info. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> WESTCHESTER DOM/ME S SUB Master.Dyh@verizon.net Northern Suburbs of NYC, primarily Westchester, Munches on the first Sunday of every month at 5 PM. Play parties on the third Friday of the month. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> ROCHESTER KINK SOCIETY http://www.rks-society.com/events.htm BDSM organization located in Rochester, NY. Our Mission: To provide BDSM and Kink-Oriented persons with a safe space for learning, practicing, and discussing BDSM and related kink. Holding monthly munches, meetings, demonstrations, workshops, playparties and online discussions.
<><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> ONE TIME BDSM EVENTS <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><> MONTREAL WEEKEND PLANNED Miss Morpheous and Chris are planning a group trip to the Montreal BDSM scene soon. Please contact her for additional information at Missmorpheus@aol.com. <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><>
THE EULENSPIEGEL SOCIETY Full Three day weekend BDSM Conference with education, vendors, and social events. August 10-13, 2001. In New Brunswick New Jersey. (they are the biggest and oldest BDSM society in the country) Register online at www.tes.org or http://206.20.176.253/home/tes30.htm for that specific page email tes30@tes.org <><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><><>
REQUEST COPIES OF OUR MOST POPULAR ARTICLES! Just e-mail Sadie with the one you want. ARTICLES BY SUBMISSIVE SADIE: How to Get Involved in the BDSM Lifestyle Mistress Sadie Speaks Submissive Sadie's Top Ten Tips for Dating Doms FAQ about Rose & Thorn OTHER POPULAR COLUMNS Play Party Etiquette by Trish of PENE SM Vs. Abuse Ten Rules for Dominants Chastity Belts by Altairboy BDSM LISTS AND RESOURCES Websites Consignment shops in Northern Vermont (for dressing BDSM) Stores & shops that sell BDSM Paraphernalia in Northern Vermont BDSM Symbol patches & other items Books Movies Songs POEMS By Cynthia, Flirt, Bruce & Amber ARTICLES IN THE GROUP LEADER SERIES - BY SUBMISSIVE SADIE The Trials and Tribulations… and Joys, of Running Rose & Thorn of Vermont. (And Tips on How To Start Your Own Group!) How to Screen Guests for a BDSM Organization Managing A Large E-Mail Addresses List – Tips & Tricks for Peace of Mind
ADMINISTRIVIA WANT TO BE OFF THE MAILING LIST? Just let me know, and off you'll be. No hard feelings. (Please remember that we only have one mailing list, so if you don't get this weekly mailing you won't know upcoming event dates.) WANT TO BE **ON** THE MAILING LIST? Are you getting this newsletter forwarded from someone else? Just e-mail burlvtsub@aol.com and we'll put you on the mailing list. It's FREE! HOW TO SUBMIT Send your stuff to me today! BDMS quotes, gossip, articles, poetry, etc. all welcome. Please note if I can use your name and e-mail address so readers can respond to you directly. I won't be editing your pieces, so be sure they are spellchecked etc. SHARE THE WEALTH Feel free to forward this newsletter to any BDSM folk you know.
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