Sadie's  Columns

 

 

 

 

 

 

Spirituality & BDSM

BDSM is about Love (aka the Bob Deegan Column)

The Feminist Submissive, and a Spiritual Approach to Surrender

It's Not About The Whip- Exploring the Erotica Mystica of BDSM

Spirituality, BDSM, and a Stack of Unanswered Questions

One Small Step - Buying the Ticket for the Journey into BDSM & Spirituality

BDSM is About Spiritual Transformation – My Own Story 

The Spiritual Blow Job (No Really!)

 

Size Acceptance and the BDSM Community

A Plethora of Big Beautiful Babes; Answering the question of why are there so many fat women in the BDSM scene?

Fat Women, Body Image, and Sexual Politics In The BDSM Scene

Size Matters! Reader Commentary on Being Fat in the BDSM Scene

Dear Auntie Sadie: "My Dominant ordered me to lose weight - what should I do?"

Just Say No to the Doctor's Office Scale (not really about BDSM but a good piece anyhow)

Tips & Techniques for a Fabulous Fetish Photo Shoot: Tips for the Plus Size & Proud!

Where do I Start?

Part 1: Getting Involved In The BDSM Community

Part 2: Exploring Relationship Options in BDSM

Part 3: Getting up to Speed on the Technical Stuff of Dominance

Part 4: OK I Have A Submissive … What The Heck Do I Do Now?

 

Gossip, Rumor, Innuendo and Tattletales; How to keep your Nose Clean when posting to the Internet (part 1 of 2)

A Wicked Witch offered me a Poisoned Apple, and I took a Bite (part 2 of 2)

 

Is Your Friend Ready to Hear About Your Kinky Lifestyle? Read this Before Proceeding… (part 1 of 2)

How to Share Your Kinky Side with Friends and Family without Freaking Anyone Out (part 2 of 2)

On Submission

An Old Fashioned Girl in a Less Than Old Fashioned Lifestyle

Sadie's Prime Directives for Snagging the Domme (or Dom) of your Dreams

Expressing the Submissive Within… when you are a Pretty Dominant Gal Yourself

My Submissive Nature

Submission on Thanksgiving Night

Sensuous Sadie Gets Slapped

The Submissive in Charge

Exploring the Phenomenon of Strong Female Submissives

Sensuous Sadie and the Dilemma of Submissives Training their Doms

Just Call me a Bedroom Submissive

The Frugal Submissive (for Dominants too)

Total Surrender? In a Pig's Eye!

The Flavors of my Submission

Sensuous Sadie Considers A 24/7 - Part I

Sensuous Sadie Considers A 24/7 - Part II

On Switching

Sensuous Sadie, Girl Wrestler

The Fuzzy Area between Domspace and Subspace

Vicarious Submission

Switches Rule... and Hurt Too! (with tart commentary from readers)

Post Relationship Thoughts

"Aren't you over him yet, Sadie?" - Healing the Heart on the Slow Track

Help for Recovering from the Loss of a Partner – for those of you who have extra sensitive hearts

 

On Dominance

How to Spot a Dominant at Ten Paces

He Looks like a Dom and Quacks like a Dom, but is he really a Dom?  - Thoughts on the difference between appearing to be in control, and actually being in control

Doms Behaving Badly

Sensuous Sadie and the Catch-22 Of Looking Domme

A Dominant’s Ethics and Some Messy Emotional Areas of the Human Psyche

Nature of Sadism and the Sadism of My Nature

Creating an Atmosphere for BDSM Play

Negotiating the Emotional Landscape of D/s Play

 

On Play Parties

I've Been Invited To A BDSM Play Party! Should I Go?

The Continuum of BDSM Play - Play Parties and That Whole Dilemma

 

The BDSM Community

Think Globally, Spank Locally

BDSM Relationships: Vanilla with a Dash of Kink, or a Whole Different Animal?

Are we a Community, or Just a Bunch of Kinksters Doing our Thing? –Commentary from BDSM Thinkers and Leaders

"Danger Dr. Smith, Danger!" Hidden Perils of the BDSM Scene

What is an Experienced Player?

Taking BDSM out of the Bedroom – My approach to the lifestyle as an orientation and not just a sexual practice (not that there’s anything wrong with that)

BDSM Daytrippers, Lifestylers, and all the Kinky Souls in Between

The BDSM/Vanilla Continuum – A Tool for Self Reflection

Rough Sex, BDSM and other Mushy Delineations

“Don’t Scare the Villagers” and other Questionable Laws, 
along with my thoughts on David Steinberg’s book 

Tolerance Begins at Home: Fighting BDSM Bigotry

My Dominant must be Strong, My Submissive must be Thin; Is it biology or just personal preference?

Coping with "Novice Fatigue"

Practicum – the BDSM Community

Sadie's Prime Directives for Snagging the Domme (or Dom) of your Dreams

Misnomers, Little White Lies and Big Honkin' Whoppers of the BDSM Scene

Thoughts on Seeing a Kink-Friendly Shrink

Why I Don't Give a Hoot About Protocol and Why It's Important to Know Anyway

Sobriquets and Screen Names: What We Call Ourselves

Making Sense of Internet Writing Styles

Protecting your Identity in the BDSM Scene

Going all the Way – The BDSM Way

Safewording Once is Once Too Many

Coping with "Novice Fatigue"

 

The Duck and Cover Series Website Obscenity Series

The Duck and Cover: Table of Contents 

Am I the Dog in the Dogfight? All about the FBI, Websites and the Whole Obscenity Problem. Part 1 of 5

Guidelines for Making your Website less Obscene. Part 2 of 5

Who's working on your behalf and what you can do to help. Part 3 of 5

Why Should You Care? (This won't be a flag-waving, patriotic rant – I promise) Part 4 of 5

Resources and Links in the Fight for Freedom of Speech Part 4 of 5

 

Prospecting for Pleasures along the Canadian Border - a series about my relationship with Master Vladimir

Photos of Vladimir

My Promise to Vladimir  (June 2006)

That Old Monogamy Commitment Fandangle    (June 2006)

Caging my Submissive Spirit    (June 2006)

The Perils of Transparency    (July 2006)

A Very Short Love Affair  (July 2006)

They say you should never sleep with your friends  (July 2006)

An Ode to Master Xavier (and tell him not to get a swelled head over it either)  (August 2006)

When Do Broken Hearts Heal? Not Soon Enough, If You Ask Me (September 2007) Part of the Vladimir Series

 

 

Articles about my relationship with Master Xavier (which followed Vladimir)

Photos of Xavier

An Ode to Master Xavier (and tell him not to get a swelled head over it either) (August, 2006)

The Spiritual Blow Job (No Really!) (September, 2006)

NEWSFLASH! Sadie Swallows for the Very First Time… plus after the break: discussion about the challenge of long-term relationships in the BDSM scene (September, 2006)

A Foray into Mind Play and How I Survived my first Panicky Moment (September, 2006)

A Fork in the Road: Taking the Deeper Road or Sticking with the Light and Breezy (October, 2006)

 

Article where I mentioned him:

A Plethora of Big Beautiful Babes; Answering the question of why are there so many fat women in the BDSM scene?

 

Editorials

Why on Earth does Sadie Write Such Personal Stuff?

 

 

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