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Comments on:
I
have enjoyed reading your column for some time and wanted to thank you
for sharing it with us. I have found both practical tips (the
"fetish shoot" series in particular) and food for thought in
your columns. The "getting over a breakup" column was also
excellently written (and, unfortunately, relevant). I wish you luck in
the path you travel and again, wish to convey my sincere appreciation
for the words you write.
I enjoyed your article on recovering
from a loss - that was me three years ago. Thank you for letting folks
know that we Dominants do have hearts and can be hurt. The only thing I
can add is that I came out of my loss a stronger person but it took
time. I just wanted to say that I loved
your article "Tolerance Begins at Home: Fighting BDSM
Bigotry." It was well written, and the information is helpful. A
family member outed me to my mom a couple of years ago. My family, who
never should have known anything about my private life made me feel
awful. My mother said something like, "How could you do this if you
care about us?" Mind you, I hadn't even done anything yet at that
point. To make a long story short, I feel better about myself now that
I've read your article. Thank you. My
size is something that is always on my mind and I always wish that I
were thin. But to my Master, I am beautiful! He loves the whole
package. Thank you, I think I will look in the mirror again and see the
beauty before me. I too am a beautiful woman. Thank
you, thank you for this article! I am exploring my naturally submissive
side, and am in reality a pretty tough chick; manager, single mum, and
all that implies. I had lunch with a wonderful man yesterday. We had
just sat down, when I excused myself to go to the washroom. When I
returned, he told me he had "taken the liberty" of ordering
the chardonnay for me. I almost begged him to take my liberty right
there - I was so turned on. That's exactly what I wanted to hear. I am
so tired of having to make every tiny petty decision in my life, and my
deeply submissive self is only too happy to give that up to a strongly
dominant man. Hooray for you, and for me, and for all women trying to
make a stand in the world and at the same time relax into the man we
want to (need to?) submit to. The primal raw connection, as you say. I
am learning, but I am learning I am on the right track at the same time. As
a male with a strong dominant aspect to his personality it was
refreshing to read what you had to say about female (bedroom)
submissives. I am finding it very difficult to find a woman who is
intellectually strong, emotional open, desirous of open communications
and submissive in the bedroom. When I meet a submissive woman and
tell her that for me it is about partnership, friendship and mutual
respect, but with the dom/sub dynamic in the bedroom, she is unable to
connect with where I am coming from. It seems that if you're not
into the slave/master thing then you're not really dominant, but no one
has the right to determine how the dynamic called dom/sub is defined. Your
timing is excellent, I've been going back and forth about my joining a
group and how it affects my emotions etc. You've giving me something
valuable to think about as I continue on my journey of discovery. Its
always helpful to get others insights to help clear things up in my
head, especially when others feel the same as I do. You
regularly astonish me with your ability to articulate the complexities
of being a conscious and evolving human being in the bdsm world.
I'm not sure how I would be handling the challenges of being a
submissive if I did not have your regular doses of insight, wisdom, and
affirmation. It is so incredibly nice to know I am not alone in
the way I experience the world. And your writing! Even if the
subject weren't so near and dear to my heart, I'd appreciate your
well-crafted prose, your depth of insight, your irreverent voice. I
admire your ability to handle a difficult subject with grace and wit.
I am a freelance writer and editor, an avid reader, and I teach English
at a university--yet the few times I have tried to put my bdsm
insights/experiences down on paper I've given up in frustration. Thank
God I have you to do it for me! You are a blessing. A calm port in
a very stormy and confusing sea. I am very grateful. You
hit the head on what being submissive is...that is something I have
always felt. Turning over control can only be done by someone who is in
control of their life. Keep up the good work. You are a wonderful writer
with a down-to-earth approach to the lifestyle and I am sure many have
benefited from reading your posts. Just
read your article: "Exploring the Phenomenon of Strong Female
Submissives." I couldn't agree more. I have worked very
hard over the years to build some sense of self-worth, and love to say,
what good is a sub without a will to surrender? It is in the act
of surrender through submission that does make this a spiritual act and
a deeply satisfying one. I also loved the Barbie pics and the
chastity cartoon, as well as the pics of you. You are definitely a
role This
is one of the best articles I've read in quite sometime. Wish I
would have read this when I was first starting out in this life. Thanks
for the quality! Thank
you for writing about this topic! Many times I've sat with friends and
we've tried to determine how to express the difference between
"real dominance," "implied dominance," and
"scene dominance." Of course there is always someone who is
going to pipe in with the definition of real. But, for the most part,
they understand it's a word, not a term that Webster's coined. I've been
to your site, read it, and consider it a resource to the community as a
whole. I
thought that this weeks column was OUTSTANDING! I always love your
column, as I find it to be extremely informative to someone as new to
the scene as myself. I thank you more than you will know for all that
you have given. While
I find much
of your articles to be informative, I must say that most don't quite
hit me in the same positive manner that this one did.
This is one of the most sensible, realistic, and what I consider
to be true,
articles I have yet to see regarding Dominance and submission. That pic of you with the pumpkin bra
is a riot! Hee, hee, hee! Nice touch, that censoring strip across
your eyes. Those Halloween jokes were pretty good and the photos with
sassy pumpkins were a hoot. I
went looking for something to help explain how I felt to others and
really to myself as well. Your writing touched me so much as I faced yet
another meeting with another "vanilla Dom" and yet another
conclusion that the one I really wanted was unobtainable. But after
reading this I somehow feel that the reason there was no magick was not
my fault but maybe theirs. I too will have to wait until he finds me.
Thank you for your lovely writing. I just read your letter to Griffin and "Last Stop
on the Sadie Train," and I have to say I was brought to tears. I
will continue to go to your website and read your works. I'm sure
you realize that your mid-life crisis is a passage to a new beginning. A
passage that, I pray, will offer you all of your heart's
desires. Thank you for sharing your writings, your passion, and
most of all your generous spirit. Fond Regards, I
love your style of writing! It
flows very nicely, and is very easy to read. It is also very honest and
thought provoking, which makes me want to read more and more, especially
the articles regarding self-BDSM and what to do when your partner is
vanilla. I have been browsing a lot of websites over the last year
trying to educate myself in the BDSM lifestyle and I can definitely say
that yours has been the most informative and intelligently written one I
have found. Your columns not only inform me but make me laugh out loud
and cry very real tears. I
am a forty seven year old woman and due to health reasons have gone from
my size 10 to a size 18 over the last few years. My husband of twenty
seven years is great, but I had all but cut off the sexual aspect of our
lives till I read your article. So from one side of the country to the
other thank you so much for making me see myself quite differently. You always have such great stuff in
your newsletter. I particularly enjoyed your interview of Justin Tanner
a while back, and other interviews I've read there always seem so unbiased
and intriguing. I've finally read your article on
feminism and submission and found it extremely well written as well as
enlightening. Your wonderful description of your D/s relationship
as about satisfying yourselves as individuals and creating that
"body between" is truly compelling. Thank you for sharing your
excellent writing and your website. Thank you Sadie for incorporating
my thoughts in your column on switching. I appreciate the well thought
out article and hope that it will spark much discussion and change of
thought in the BDSM Community. I love your newsletter. Your columns and insights are so
refreshingly well written, your observations so grounded and joyful that
I just wanted to thank you for sharing them. The columns on body image
are particularly engaging. Like many women, I have struggled with that
over the years. I recently went to my first public play festival and I
saw all shapes and sizes. I came to appreciate the beauty in each one
because of the confidence these men and women had that energized the
room, the scene, and my own sense of wellbeing. Keep writing for us
Sadie! I found this article to be quite
interesting and very deep in its honesty, both from the point of view of
your own experiences and those of your friends. I for one, thank
you for showing those who haven't thought about the perils of such
things, to think a bit more before they leap. Kudos' on a very well
written and thought provoking literary accomplishment! I wanted to tell you that I have
really enjoyed and related to your last few articles about the single
submissive. Your talents are appreciated. I
just had to drop you a line on your newsletter of this week. I thought
the articles were both wonderful. All too often in our "hurry
up" instant gratification society, we fail to do the one thing I
think you were getting across, and that is to connect with your
partner/playmate on a real level. Relationship comes truly from the
heart on a heartfelt plane. I do hope that more folks who are involved
in the community read your newsletter. Many thanks for your hard work
and dedication. I
usually never have or take the time to read things from email postings
but I decided to tonight since The Single Submissive's Lament seemed
to call out my name: Mariah....Mariah..... come here and read about
yourself. Anyway I just want to say how much I enjoyed your writing and
the thoughts behind the words. I love to see another person take words
and make me feel like I wished I had written them. Bravo. Sadie,
nice commentary about your journey through life. I am a dominant on the
same journey for love and fulfillment, so your longing struck a chord.
One day we will be friends and you will be my guest for lunch in
Burlington. You may have all the chicken with peanut satay that you
desire. Good for you Sadie! Controversy
is what opens the doors and windows of our minds and souls. Keep
writing; I like a good controversy and listening to the debates is what
i consider to be an educational forum. Outstanding
commentary! You've truly given voice to the obvious, the obvious that no
one else seem to be willing to talk about. My current sub is what I
would consider plus sized. Although we can typically talk about
anything, that's one topic of conversation that I have avoided, but an
observation that I've wanted to discuss. Thanks again for the
insight. I
really enjoyed your article "Going All The Way - The BDSM
Way." You wrote about so many things that have meaning to many of
us. Thank you for a great article. Years ago a pastor/teacher was
working with me on my concept of God, talking about spirituality and
sexuality. He delivered several messages from his pulpit on just such
and i left validated and in total agreement that those who develop and
nurture their spirituality, also reap the benefits sexually. i have
never been the same since. Thank you for your article and BDSM and
spirituality, i found it another validation. I very much admire your website
and your writings. I recall reading in one of your writings that you
identify yourself as an erotic submissive (bedroom submissive) and are
quite unapologetic about it. I love this article because it so much
resonates with how I see myself. Just wanted to compliment you on
your article about how to spot a Dominant. It is obvious that you have
studied human nature understand it better than most. With that knowledge
I am sure you will find your life very interesting. I hope you never
quit learning. I am a member of SAADE in WOW
Damn Good Article Sadie. I wished I had known about it long before I
went through my experiences the Joe, Curly and Moe. I must say you hit
the nail dead on the head. I plan on adding this article to my special
collection of things to read from time to time. And just for the record,
I am on a Dom Diet and there are no Masters on my Menu! I read your article on body image
(I'm a size 16) and no longer will let my body size intimidate me about
attending a female submissive talk group next month. (My shyness still
may prevent it) I also no longer have the feeling I can't participate or
ever find a man because of my need to be independent and self expressive
in other areas outside the bedroom. I plan to read everything on your
website, but wanted to write to say Thank You. Your happiness and in the way you have written about your
"Travels with Griffin" have given me warm chills and happy
goose bumps all over. Feeling the energy you both share, will continue
to inspire me. I enjoy my Sunday morning coffee & quiet time reading
your articles and the interviews are always very interesting. Thank You
for making my day start out on a happier note. It's amazing how deep your words carved into my soul.
One sometimes give up in a quest, because you feel you will never find
the one for you, yet you know the one must be out there somewhere. I
read your letter and felt compelled to write you, even as I'm sure you
already found your Dom. Diamonds such as yourself don't take long to be
discovered. Thank you for the story you wrote
on being a "bedroom submissive" I'm glad you took Carson to
task for that. I love your site, very interesting. I like the way you write - you have precipitated the
odd chain of thoughts in my own mind from time to time about things I
had not considered. Your
Thanksgiving essay was excellent! A beautiful tie in at the end.
I think you do an excellent job, and I enjoy SCENEsubmissions so much.
I receive much information, a good deal of laughter and joy, and even
soul nourishment from you and the writers you showcase. I am also a plus-sized subbie and for a punishment i was
told to write an essay on “why a slave should not make self-derogatory remarks.” So i began
researching to see if i could possibly find anything written by others
who deal with body image and i was delighted to read yours. It certainly
gave me alot of information and new perspectives. What a GREAT article on protocol/etiquette.
I'm not a biggie on formal protocol myself (perhaps due to lack of
education/training/whatevers) But it shed a whole new light for me. My
hat's off to the both of you! You presented both sides of the proverbial
coin. Thank
you so much for the article you did on adultery and the vanilla spouse.
I am a sub and meeting more men than I could ever imagine who are
married. This helped me sort through my own feelings and ideas and come
to a decision. Thank you Sadie, for reprinting David Steinberg's
introduction to Photo Sex, and to your review of Cleo's BDSM
videos. It seems that slowly but surely sex is coming out of the
closet after thousands of years of suppression and fear. I am
considering a career change to photography and publishing, and you
have given me much to think about. I've been reading your thoughts
and essays and I have to say you know your onions. I am an ardent
reader and a fledging Dominant. I'm in Nigeria. There's no BDSM
community here, to live the life is to be called sick. Between SCENEsubmissions and your
comments on other people's posts, you bring the level of conversation
up. Leading by example, I guess. Wowwweeee, Sadie. That took guts
to spill about your encounters with married men. While I don't have much
trust in my own female gender, I don't feel good about hurting my
sisters like that, cuz, what I give, I get. Regarding the article on adultery. BRAVO!! It's about
time someone admitted that it is wrong. It is a betrayal of trust and
honor. In a lifestyle which professes to be all about trust and honor, I
have never understood the dichotomy of this particular situation. You
must trust and honor... someone who is betraying their spouse? Thank
you for your frank and clear discussion examples of what adultery really
IS. This entire piece is well
worth reading, because it describes the kind of temptation a lot of us
in the scene wind up feeling. It's also very clear on the distinction
between adultery and consensual open relationships (although I think
abuses are also possible in the latter, as they are in any human
arrangement). It's heartening to know that there are people who care
about keeping trust with folks they've never even met. Thanks, Sadie! Congratulations on your writing
and sharing accomplishments! What a private privilege to have
watched (from a distance) the growth of your online venue over the past
two years. Sadie, thanks again for How to
Spot a Dominant at Ten Paces. My sub mentor has consistently advised me
to take baby steps in my search for a Dom. She has advised me that
patience, diligence and keen insight into my own needs were essential
qualities in this search. I
came across your website yesterday and, as a 36-yr-old woman just
starting to understand my submissive desires, have been grateful to find
the wealth of information. Your story about your introduction to BDSM in
the tent was particularly helpful, causing me to think about how
feelings that seem new have actually existed as a subcontext that had
merely to be awakened by someone "in-the-know.” Just a quick note to thank you
for the articles that have been appearing in the SAADE
Gazette. Your recent one on Leather attire was read with interest as
we have been discussing this for a while. ~ Wonderwoman [Referring to The BDSM Cyber Relationship] I enjoyed your article on the therapeutic benefits to BDSM. You're right, there's not enough research out there and there's not enough qualified people out there to help people involved in BDSM lifestyles or interests to overcome past experiences using BDSM scenarios. Thanks Sadie for being so prolific.
~ Chantilly [referring
to A Dominant’s
Ethics and Some Messy Emotional Areas of the Human Psyche]
i
read Sensuous Sadie’s article. She is so awesome. very open about
Herself. i had those “i
like sex” feelings as a teenager. Well, i do now too, more than ever.
i love to play and be sexy - flirt. i am now learning about things i
never knew it was okay to really like and want! Just wanted to say that your
interview with David Stein was wonderful. Naturally He contributed
to that... but your questions were so insightful as well. I'm
truly glad that i had a chance to read it... and i would like permission
to post the link in a few D/s and BDSM oriented groups i belong to. Sadie,
your article about being a hoochie mama was a blast! That is definitely
something that I aspire to as well. Thank
you so very much for writing the article I found on www.thebrc.net.
Your article was very liberating and something that I believe I really
needed to read...today even. Hopefully your article will hit home with
me and I can learn to accept my body for what it is...curves, flaws and
all. Another
BDSM BBW here. Thanks! Enjoyed your article.
That is a great column! I think you hit it right on the head. We can't
turn away from our sexual activism because of things happening outside
our community, and we do need to support our activists who give so much
to help create a better world for all of us. You're really doing your
part to activate our community. I'm
new to the BDSM scene but I ran across your article "Fat and
Beautiful" and just had to compliment you on it. I am plus
size and have been very nervous about attending a munch let alone a play
party and your article was so reassuring. Not only was it
great to hear from someone (skinny or large) with such awesome
self-esteem, but to hear from someone who is also in the BDSM scene. I
just wanted to say thank you for such an informative and fun article. Thank
you for the wonderful article. I'm so tired of seeing women (and men)
submissives think they aren't allowed to set boundaries, or not want to
do the work on themselves to define and set those boundaries, finding it
easier to simply let others do it for them. You bet there are doms
that behave badly...heck, there are people that behave badly. Thank you
for saying it doesn't have to be accepted.
I
am a voluptuous Domme in Atlanta, GA and wanted to write and say
"thank you" for your article. For me, feeling sexy is the
greatest aphrodisiac I can feed to a submissive. I am a drop-dead
gorgeous woman with a powerful, strong body and an intense, hypnotizing
stare. I revel in my beauty and appreciate anyone and everyone else that
does. I hope that your article helps others with body issues remind
themselves that beauty and power all start in the head, and everyone's
flesh is worth loving. Thank you for a very entertaining
and slightly clearer perspective on the bedroom BDSM'ers. While running
our local BDSM group, I'm often confronted with newbies and old hats who
can sometimes be at odds with each other, because some are only bedroom
BDSM'ers, and others are 24/7 types. Your thoughts and opinions allow
our group to discuss and celebrate the differences we have among our
BDSM peers locally, and to grow with our desires to the limits we wish
to take them. Thank you again for a great little newsletter. I
want to thank you for your Apr 13 issue - specifically the lead
article where you take on that silly twaddle about 24/7 being
a "better" way of doing BDSM. This is an issue that
concerns me a great deal - this silliness that often ends up deluding
newbies and doing considerable damage needs to be opposed - with
information, and by having visible people modeling other, equally valid,
and far less risky (for novices) ways of doing BDSM. I
really enjoyed your article on "Bedroom submissives" and could
identify with much that you said. This is
just a letter thanking you for your unbiased article on cyber bdsm
relationships. I found it on the BDSM Resource Center, along with a
more...common opinion on the same subject. Also, I love your other
articles, particularly the one I just finished reading on submissives
training their Doms. Fabulous job, and an informative read, especially
since I can relate. Keep up the great work! I look forward to reading
more. It
means a great deal to me to have my writing and activism understood by
someone who is going to be continuing this work after I am gone. I also
just loved the phrase "think globally, spank locally," and
feel that it should probably be a t-shirt and a bumper sticker if not a
prime time TV show. What a great way to sum up the ways in which
we must build community while seeking out our own pleasure. You're just
a peach. Thanks so much for a brilliant and impassioned effort. Once
more you have my admiration and best wishes I
want to thank you for a wonderful series of articles that concerned
Auto-Erotic play in BDSM. Wow.
Your subject matter is just what i needed to hear about as my Master is
away and sometimes my sense of direction is askew. I am continually
searching for ways to practice my slave art in a way that is meaningful
and fulfilling. Thank you. Thanks
for conducting the interview with Altairboy, It was very well written I
enjoyed it very much. Sadie, trying to find words and phrases which not only
capture, but illuminate those moments within our "timeless
universes" of exchange are often so elusive and inarticulate. You
were able to convey the beauty and tenderness of being in that moment so
clearly... I felt I was there with you. Thank you or sharing so much of
yourself with us. I
like your relaxed style, and you know what you're talking about. I
enjoyed several of your articles, especially under "Where Do I
Start" and "The Single Submissive." Excellent
interviews this issue! Both were passionately
articulate and true to their inner selves. Thank you. i really enjoyed reading your article, wish i had read this before
starting my search within the lifestyle. I really liked this column Sadie. It raises such interesting questions, yet leaves the "answers"
for each reader to explore for him/herself. Since the
"answers" are, in fact, so different for each of us, this
open-ended style feels refreshingly appropriate amidst much BDSM writing
that takes an authoritative stance on "the truth." I just received your SCENEsubmissions newsletter, and
as usual, it is a very interesting and informative newsletter. I look
forward to receiving it. I truly enjoyed your latest article The Nature of
Sadism and The Sadism of My Nature. It was a delightful and
thoughtful expression of the dichotomy that we sadists feel, and even
more importantly, I thought, one of the clearest expressions of the
pleasure we sadists feel on the giving end of our pain. My latest rant
is that this thing that we do is NOT about technique, it is about power,
and connection, emotions and spirits. Your article produces exactly the
kind of thought that I think our community needs now. What a great interview with Bob
Dern! It is always fun
to learn about people's backgrounds. I'm starting to get back some wonderful comments from
various people who have read the interview. So far it's been high
praise. Yeah!!! I read your article on How to Spot a Dominant
at Ten Paces, and I would like permission to repost it because
we've had a few situations where the "fakeDoms" you describe
are around us, but not necessarily a part of our group. I felt your
column was well-written and had good insights on the issue. Sadie, what an articulate, fascinating and delightful
piece you wrote for www.Leatherpage.com.You don't know it, but we are soul-mates. I
really loved this issue! It
was the best so far. You really do a great job and are a great asset to
our community. Best of all, I think you might sway a few
folks who are critical of the way others choose to live. It's not easy
to open minds, but I think you might have just done that! I really do enjoy your writing and I
always look forward to reading it. In fact, its the only email that I
regularly print and then cuddle up in the comfy chair to read. I have just finished reading your article Fat
Women, Body Image and Sexual Politics in the BDSM Scene. Your
article "spoke" to me since I am also a BBW, and I thought it
was wonderfully written. Thank you so much for sharing it. I've just spent the last half-hour on your site, and
have thoroughly enjoyed myself. I loved the Interview, but especially
enjoyed the 'Quotes' pages. There was wit and intelligence in your
writing and I love both. The photograph was lovely. Mystery in dark
Satanic black is always such. I have just finished reading the article, Fat
Women, Body Image, and Sexual Politics. Excellent article!
Excellent views! Kudos to your clear thinking and the very positive
vibes you project. Your article #4 in the series of Where Do I Start
flooded me with wonderful memories of afterglow moments where good
training is sometimes cemented best for the sub. It is so nice to read
something filled with the awareness of little details so important to
the nurturing of a true sharing of this complicated subject without
trying to throw a blanket over it. I would also like to take the time to tell you what a
great job you are doing. The community can only benefit from your
efforts. I have read the interviews of my friends Dex and
barbie. What a
wonderful experience. They are special people in our community. I would
like to subscribe to the newsletter. Hoping for more of the same. Thank
you for putting a smile on my face today. I enjoyed reading about
Sensuous Sadie. You go girl!
I've enjoyed reading your SCENEsubmissions. I always get excited
when I see that in the header from the EPE Dominion Yahoo Group mailing.
You really are doing a great thing. The community is about the people
and you're giving us a chance to get to know some people better. The
leather community needs more people like you!
Thank
you for being so generous with your insight and allowing others to see
who you are. Not everyone is able to be that open. What
really resonates with me is when you are writing about the
deeper meaning of the BDSM lifestyle, about the spirituality of the
energy connection. I am moved by your intelligent,
creative, compassionate, and yet no-nonsense writing. Thank you for
what you have contributed and continue to contribute to the BDSM body
of work. If you ever come to For the
past five years, I have been learning all I can about the world of BDSM. I
have subscribed to many online lists, and one by one, have cancelled most
of them. Yours is the only one that I eagerly await. Your fresh and
sensitive insights warm my heart. It is rare to find someone who lucidly
addresses the connection between BDSM, and spirituality. To me, they
are incomplete unless you have all of them. Reading your columns feels as
if you are curled up next to me, whispering into my ear. It reminds
me of the best radio DJs and commentators - the ones you listen to late
into the night - with the lights off and your eyes closed, lulled by their
velvet tones and luscious thoughts. I was just
thinking about you the other day, listening to a Meatloaf CD in the
car actually, thinking about what you said about how formative
Paradise by the Dashboard Light was for many of us in our earlier
stages of development, how that set out what sex was. I loved that
song as a teenager, its rebellious desire and eagerness. And yet, as
you point out, there is so much more to discover. I loved these kind
of insights in your book, by the way. It is refreshing to see someone
talk about sexuality in a way that is both serious and lighthearted. I think you did a great job of balancing that. You
have no idea how thrilled I was to find readings that have meaning.
There's so much crap and moneymaking in this little corner of our world,
and too few that speak with sensuous sense. Your writings on the
spiritual aspect of BDSM have been of special interest to me, as I see
them fitting my own thought and experience. To have someone out there in
the big world express these ideas so eloquently was quite a revelation
for a woman up in little Iceland. This has made me more secure in my own
skin, and more at ease with my own emotions. Thank you dear Sadie -
please do never stop writing about this remarkable way of life. I just
discovered your website and what I've found has given me plenty of food
for thought. I appreciate that because I'm thinking about whether, at
the tender age of 46, I want to act on my D/s fantasies. I've been telling
myself that fantasy is as far as it's going to go because I'm fat,
middle-aged and a big chicken. Websites like yours, with frank discussion
of the dangers as well as the pleasures of the scene, make it seem
possible that I might find a Dominant I could trust. Thanks for a
well-put-together website, with some fascinating (and pretty damn hot!)
links and pages. I
stumbled across your web site very late last night and was extremely
touched with what I read. I must admit, it's an absolute pleasure to read
someone with a good command of both the written language and grammar...so,
I'll enjoy reading more of your site later this evening. First,
though, I have to put up some shelving… I just
wanted to let you know that I so thoroughly enjoy your column. You are
an outstanding writer and I always look forward to the wit, humor, and
insights you'll come up with each week! I
am new to the lifestyle (at 45 years young) and have many questions and
concerns. This
one wished to write to you in order to express how much she has
thoroughly enjoyed your columns and your website. Few authors are able
to bring such emotion into their writing as you have. You have a very
rare gift. This one looks forward to your future columns! Over the past few years I've been more
and more aware of my fascination and arousal by a variety of BDSM
fantasies and literature. But until I found your site, I just viewed those
things as a variant in sexual play and that felt a little empty to me.
After reading your writings and the writings of others that you share,
I've filled that void with a new appreciation for the richness of
sexuality and the spiritual connections possible as part of sexual play.
I've found new enthusiasm for exploration and experimentation. I'm always
seeking an online friend or two to discuss things with and that is rare.
But at least I have your site to keep me warm. I find your whole site simply awesome.
I have been a fan of your website for a quite awhile and have
always found it informative and down to earth. So many people only see the
online BS that goes on in the online chat rooms. They don't have a clue
what it is like to live this lifestyle 24/7 in a committed relationship
where the couple actually lives in the same house. It is by far the single
hardest thing I have ever had to do. I am married to my Master and we were
Husband & wife before the discovery of the lifestyle. We have
been in the lifestyle for 5 years this month and it has been and continues
to be exciting and challenging. That's why I love reading your website.
You tell it like it is and I admire that so very much. I have enjoyed your writings as
you speak with knowledge and experience. I love smart subs. Dearest Sensuous Sadie, You are
always such a pleasure to read. This girl finds you fascinating! Thank
you for keeping my reality within me. Such a precious support and
encouragement your weekly newsletters have become to this one. May you
be richly blessed for your devotion, time, energy, and love for what you
do. Just wanted you to know i am enjoying your web page and
it is helping me through my own journey. Thank you so much. You are such a
beautiful lady in more ways that i think some see. I think you are an exceptional
writer and I love how frank you are and open about yourself and direct
you are with your interviews. I am very grateful that you take the time
to write and publish what you do. I wish I had the talent to write so
well. I want to go on record as saying
"here here!" I have been a HUGE fan of your work for over a
year. For a long time you site was the only one I could find with
information on the Spiritual side of BDSM. Just wanted to say thank you
while I had the venue to do so. i
have spent the last couple of hours visiting the sites linked to your
newsletter. thanks. it's been a really enjoyable morning. there is
trouble in paradise here and i'm searching for my submissive/servant's
heart. i appreciate you very much. I am grateful for your
intelligent and informative newsletter. At the moment it's the one thing
that keeps me sane. I am out there with no partner and I am very
discouraged at times by the predatory nature of the people I meet online
and real time. Your newsletter gives me an anchor of sorts. I want to say how much I enjoyed
reading your articles as I feel they reflect your experiences more often
than your opinions. Your experiences formed/shaped your opinions, but it
is your experiences I enjoyed reading about. I love your newsletter and always
smile when it pops up in my mailbox. My favorite part is the
website of the week. Keep ‘em cumming. I look forward to reading your
next SCENEsubmissions newsletter, Sadie. I am enjoying the spirituality
slant very much. I just wanted to tell you that i
really enjoy reading what you write. Sadie, thanks so much SCENEsubmissions.
I really enjoy it. Particularly loved the article on O
control...wow....that concept is HOT! Thank you for building such a
wonderful resources for BDSMers on the web.
Your columns and articles are wonderful. thank you for your time and
keep up the great writing! You have figured greatly in my
mind the last few months and I appreciate your writing. It is wonderful
to communicate with like spirits. I
love so many of the things you write; your style, your wit, your flare.
It's wonderful that you're so generous with your talent.
Just
wanted to say that i find your writings of so much interest. i am a
regular reader of all of your postings and feel you explain everything
so well. i continue to wait in anticipation for your next digest and
read them all. I
love your writings very much. The girl I´m playing with is taking her
first steps and read your website as a task from me. She said “I feel
good that there are people like us, out there and not insane.” Ah
delightful siren Sadie. For you Sadie, sublime, intriguing, daring,
provocative, enticing, mellow, absolute gorgeous lady. And the ultimate
aphrodisiac your challenging intellect. A rare combination. Sensuous
Sadie's website not only offers the best collection of writings on the
web examining the intersection of the spirit and sadoerotic, but it is
also simply one of the most illuminating collections of SM writings
period. Think of it as a continuation of the essays of Mark Thompson's Leatherfolk
tailored to the cyber age and the new millennium. Simply
Wonderful! I
used to be a glamour photographer, so although beautiful women are
wonderful they all tend to blend together, but when I saw your picture I
just had to comment, you are truly drop dead sexy, thanks for publishing
the pictures. I
very much enjoy getting your newsletters. You are a skilled interviewer
and editor and what you are writing is so often "smack on"
Thanks for the effort you put into sending this out to me. I
have just discovered your website and am excited about your
communication of thoughts on BDSM and spirituality. Your writings on
those two subjects are releasing a lot of similar thoughts that I share
concerning the way BDSM and spirituality are intertwined in my own
person, and how each of those are personal issues I wish to explore to
the fullest amount possible in my time on earth.
After reading many of your articles
I wonder where were you when I came into the BDSM lifestyle? I could've
saved myself many silly & embarrassing moments. You write with such
candor, energy & spunk that leaves the reader wanting more, more,
more!I absolutely love your writing style! I can't wait for your
book in June. You've made a fan out of me! i just wanted to take a moment to thank you for your
prompt reply and assistance yesterday when i wrote to you about an
issue. You were very helpful and set me into the direction where i was
able to get some great information. When i was unsure of what to do
- i turned to those who i have seen show caring and honesty. Grins
- thanks for proving my estimation to be correct. By chance or good fortune I stumbled across your site.
Superlatives are meaningless, flattery is everything. The quality and
content is memorable, which no doubt is a reflection of yourself. In awe
of the eclectic verve and élan of the Lady Feline. Dear Sadie. Yes, that life is out there, it is lived
daily by some of us, and it is not beyond you. It is MY life, and
that of my Master. Perhaps we are lucky, perhaps we are blessed,
but really we are just an ordinary, Midwestern couple with the link
between us rooted in BDSM, in spirituality, and in love. Although I've only just stumbled across your writing
in the last week, I have thoroughly enjoyed it. It's wonderful to find
folks that make the connection between bdsm and spirituality Lovely presentation. Warms the cockles of my heart
(wherever those are) Your site is not only wonderfully extensive, but
you have done a great deal of reporting educational information. I love your newsletter. At first I just scanned it
thinking it was just ads, but now I find myself going over it
carefully... even reading it to my husband. Bravo!!!! I love your newsletter, particularly the tie into the
spiritual aspect of BDSM. I am somewhat new to the lifestyle but have
felt there was a very very strong spiritual component. Hi Sadie.... another amazing piece, you do find the
heart of the matter so very well. The interview with Master Sweetie was
good, he is a character. Enjoyed the Bob Dern interview. Thanks for alerting us
to it. You are very direct and informative, while staying personal and
sensitive. I hope many others will read and open their eyes a bit more. I continue to enjoy your articles. They are well
thought out and articulated. I spent the weekend playing with a dom who
has no belief in the spiritual component of the BDSM scene. It makes it
difficult to discuss what has happened when we do not share that basic.
On the drive home from New Hampshire i considered the fact i would be a
much better dom than many because i do understand that component of the
experience. I would like to tell you how much I have enjoyed
receiving your newsletter and that I admire the fact that you seem to do
it as a service to the community. I wanted to say thank you to Rebecca Brook and Sadie
for such a wonderful interview in the newsletter. I read it, and then
went to a new church and saw an example of the wonderful inclusiveness
that you describe in the interview. Thank you for your efforts at a
first class newsletter! Just wanted to take a moment to let you know how much
I've enjoyed reading SCENEsubmissions. You're doing a great job with
this publication, and I find it both entertaining and informative. The
articles have been great, and I've even been surprised to find myself
interested in the various profiles that you've done. I loved that article. It brought tears to my eyes and I had to share it with my
friends -- even the ones who are vanilla. Thank you for your newsletter
and keep up the good work. Congratulations on the wonderful, intelligent, and
caring work you are doing. I visited your site and really enjoyed looking though
it. I will definitely visit often. I think I'm in love...seriously I loved your website.
Several other switch/slaves/submissives and I have been looking for more
information on spirituality and BDSM. Yours is the most comprehensive
collections of writings in one place I have found. Anyway, I found you
articulate, intelligent, and I love the hat! I love your newsletter and read each with
anticipation. I appreciate your labor of love in this newsletter. In my
newbie (3 years) BDSM life, I have found the connection of BDSM play
goes much deeper on an emotional level when love is present in the
relationship. I see the tools of BDSM as assisting the average
relationship in moving to an interpersonal level which is deeper than
what I experienced in my vanilla relationships. I have been enjoying your webpage, especially the
interview with yourself. Wow, nice pic! Alluring & Passionate. Sadie is possibly the most vibrant and informed
individual on the internet today. She never sleeps due to a surgically
implanted device that allows her to labor tirelessly on her newsletter,
her website, her very fascinating interviews, her BDSM writers Yahoo
group, her leadership of Rose & Thorn, and very likely 30 or 40 more
BDSM related activities I haven't yet run across. I respect her for her
strong opinions, and for being able to convey them without diminishing
the validity of other ideas. When I signed up for your newsletter I expected a
simple one page rag that I would read once or twice and dump. I was very
surprised when I downloaded the contents and the pages just spewed out
one after another. I was even more delighted with the content. You have a real serious newsletter and I enjoyed reading it.
During the next few weeks I plan to reread some of it and will be
delighted to download your next issue. Thank you. I live in the Albany, N.Y. area and I have been receiving your
newsletter for quite some time now and have loved it. You are truly such a talented writer. This article is
another one I want to share with our group. Thanking you in advance.
I wanted to let you know I always appreciate a new issue of your
newsletter. The article by Rebecca Brook in particular moved me to
tears, which since I am at work you can tell I was extremely affected.
Thanks for keeping 'em coming! See the Photos i loved those steamy pics of you on your
site, especially the one where you're looking over the top of your
shades! Very impressive pumpkins Ma'am....
bordering on spectacular!
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